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I know I want kids eventually but how did you know you were ready?

Posted anonymously, 8th March 2022

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  • It’s a feeling that you have. When you just know it’s time.

  • Well, for me it was meeting my partner – partly because we were mid 30s already, so we didn’t have a lot of time.

  • We didn’t 100% know we were ready but after discussing it each time we went on holiday for a few years, we decided that we had careers and finances in order and that we were at the point that we would regret it if we didn’t have a child. Taking age into consideration (I was about to turn 39), we decided to start trying! Once we started that process, I knew for sure it’s what I wanted!

  • For us it was more the desire to have a child together. Personally we didn’t worry too much about the finances and are of the opinion that we’ll find a way.

  • Our babies have all been planned but I can remember being in hospital after i had my first thinking I am going to have to look after you for the rest of your life! It was weird but the love that you feel for them makes all of the scared feelings disappear.

  • I had my son young, he was planned – many are not, and have not even been thought about until they’re pregnant. I think you will know when you’re ready if you think about it a lot.

  • I’m not sure if you ever know or can be ready ????

  • Just knew I wanted children and was ready

  • From memory, I had this feeling, to be a mum. You will know when the time is ready for you.

  • I had wanted children since I was a child, so it was literally just a waiting game for me! My husband wanted children also but once we ran into fertility problems he changed his attitude to avoid disappointment. We eventually gave it a go and had babies. We knew when we were done having babies, but nature decided to give us two more without fertility treatments. I guess it’s just a feeling you get, where you start to imagine yourself with a little one, when you find yourself looking at baby products. Or it’s just a decision you and your partner make together.

  • I dont know if you ever feel ready ready but I just knew we were ready for someone else to join our little family

  • I think ensuring all your ducks are in a row is a good start, you want to ensure you are financially stable where possibly to avoid any unexpected stresses. For us it just felt like the time was right after we had gotten married and had a nice big holiday overseas. I guess ticking off anything you feel you must do before you take the step into parenthood. It’s great journey, challenging sometimes but that’s all part of the fun!

  • I had my first child at the age of 34 and the second at 36
    and lost many before and after

  • To be honest I don’t think you will ever know when you are ready. I was 100% sure that I was ready however parenthood is nothing I ever imagined. It has the good and the bad. I think ensuring you are financially stable is a very important thing.

  • I think it’s a good idea to make sure you can financially support a child, and have a budget for housing, food, transport, etc. that shows it would work out. (You don’t need extra financial stress when you have a child!) Also a good idea to have enjoyed time with your partner first, perhaps travel, doing a sport or hobby because that will all be a lot harder (and very different) once a child comes along. Personally you might like to have sorted your own career/study/life goals and are happy that a child fits in with those. And are you physically well and healthy? Sometimes you need to take folic acid and other supplements a few months before you get pregnant, and it’s so much easier to get in shape before baby comes along, but of course the biological clock does tick (unless you want to adopt) so I guess you have to weight it all up.

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