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“I have just found out I am pregnant with baby number 5, and don’t know how to tell my husband. He was adamant we we not having any more babies. I told him I would get my tubes tied after our last was born, but he told me he was going to go in for a vasectomy, and hasn’t done anything about it yet. How should I break him the news. P.S. I am very against abortion. Thank you”

Posted by anon, 25/05/2013

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  • I see this question is more then 7yr old. And ? how did your husband take this news ?? I agree with the last poster; when your husband said he would get the snip but didn’t yet, then this is a logical consequence

  • it is what it is. If he didn’t get the ‘snip’ when he said he would so be it. Explain to him that you are pregnant again and he may be disappointed but give it time to sink in. It is not your fault-congratulations.

  • Just come straight out with it. There’s no easy way to break news like this

  • I think you should just be honest with him. Hope all went well.

  • You’re just going to have to dive in and tell him. You gotta tell him, bite the bullet and tell him. It’s not like it’s your fault you’re pregnant, hubby helped ;) Good luck, hope it goes better then you’re expecting

  • I am sure that by now your five children are doing great … or is there a 6th on the way?

  • honestly say something along the lines of hunny, you know how you haven’t had that vasectomy yet? Well sorry,,, I would too bad for him. Men!

  • I bet once he is told he will fall in love with the idea, obviously you guys are already great parents of 4 so number 5 will slot in very easily. You will do it the best way you know how.

  • Quickly, so that he has plenty of time to adjust to the idea before baby comes.
    You said you’ve both said you’ll have vasectomy or tubes tied. Something needs to not only be agreed upon but actually done. Is there something else going on? I don’t quite understand why the procedure wasn’t done, by either of you. Good luck with telling him and I hope he understands that this was inevitable without birth control.

  • Make him a nice meal and give him lots of alcohol lol might soften the blow.

  • If it were me I would just tell him he knows the risks just as much as me and as they say it takes two !!!
    Hope everything went ok.

  • Firstly congratulations! He should know the risks if he hasn’t had the snip and still had sex so the blame is not all on you so he shouldn’t be user with you. These things happen and it’s an amazing miricle of life. It may not of been in the plan to have more but it is what it is. Be honest and calm
    Men have a hard time dealing with emotion and let him know exactly how you are feeling. Best of luck!

  • Just tell him , he obviously loves children!!!!

  • Just tell him, It’s not like he didn’t know what occurred prior. He should be mature enough to take the news and act responsibly.

  • How did you end up telling him?

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