How do I get my 4yr old son to play independently? My 4yr old son will not play unless I am playing with him. I play with him all day most days but its making my life very hard as I am a single parent (my husband works away) to 3 kids (5mnths, 3yrs and 4yrs) and sometimes I have stuff I need to get done (such as cooking dinner or doing the washing). Unless I am watching him or playing with him he refuses to play. Its driving me nuts as I am having to get all the household jobs done once he is asleep, if I try and set him up with something to do so I can do something else he throws the biggest tantrums. His 3yr old sister can play independently well but he just needs me to be with him 24/7. I cant go on like this.