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Last night we went to a party and I was feeding my baby who is 10 months old some solids. She took him from me and started feeding him from the same fork she put in her mouth.

I don’t know where her mouth has been or what she has and I don’t feel comfortable with her sharing with my baby but I don’t know how to tell her. I’m sure she will get offended as she’s very sensitive and will say it doesn’t matter as her and my hubby are brother and sister and that it’s okay…

Posted by Frankiielot, 13th December 2021

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  • I’d hint at it. I’d tell someone who isn’t sensitive like her, to the same thing and tell them to stop, and hopefully she’d put two and two together. If that doesn’t work, I’d just rip off the bandaid and just tell her respectfully to stop.

  • I think you’ll be better off just telling her how your feeling explaining you don’t want her sharing utensils with your baby because of germs.

  • I’d never feed a child of 10 months with a fork for one and secondly it’s not hygienic for someone to feed another using the same utensil. I’m sorry if she’s a sensitive person but she needs to realise that this is your baby and not hers so she needs to follow your rules. Get your husband to help explain since this is his sister

  • Your baby, you lay down the rules. I’d be shocked if this happened to me, and I would have no choice but to tell the friend, that feeding bub, with clean cutlery and not used by anyone else only.

  • You’ll have to be pretty blunt – perhaps use COVID as an explanation for needing better hygiene – but you’ll have to be unmistakeably clear.

  • Regardless of her being offended, you still need to let her know. It’s your child and their well being takes the priority. Just explain your concerns and ask her not to.

  • It’s covid times. It doesn’t matter if it’s family or not!! Covid doesn’t discriminate.

  • Just speak up early it’s always worse if it’s been happening for a while before you bring it up.

  • I am also a bit hesitant using other people’s cutlery or sharing food. Especially with what’s going on at the moment, it’s better to be safe than sorry – a polite word letting her know how you feel.

  • I’m with a lot of others here about covid. With your little one not vaccinated against it, I would be telling her, “I know you don’t have it but with covid going around would you might not feeding him from your fork”
    I have heard of plenty of people around that have been tested without symptoms and have come back positive.
    Imagine how she would feel if she accidentally gave it to him

  • That’s revolting. I would probably say no that’s okay I’d prefer to feed him myself. And if she wouldn’t respond well to you I’d get your husband to say it’s gross feeding the baby with her fork.

  • Thank you, everyone.
    I’ll definitely be taking advice on Christmas day as I know it’ll happen again!!!

  • Try reminding her that we’re in a pandemic, and you need to be particularly vigilant abut hygiene with your very vulnerable baby.

  • I may be old fashioned, but I really don’t have a problem with this, so long as she’s not sick.

  • With covid around I think you could use that as a strong excuse for her to rethink and use better hygine around your baby.

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