That moment when i’m joking around with my 7 yo son and I go “am I like the best mum ever or what!?!?” And my son stops dead and says seriously “I can’t say you’re the best mum ever because there’s also my step mum”. I showed I was a little upset by that and tried to have a calm talk about it with him. He then goes on to explain to me that he thinks of us “equally”. I physically felt my heart break that very moment. I feel selfish to admit how upset it made me because I truly want him to be happy and his dad to be happy and I am so relieved that we have all been lucky enough to have no real problems and for him to have a harmonious life in two new blended families (both myself and his dad have had new partners for a similar amount of time). Some part of me thought that being his bio Mum he’d think of me differently, as something more, someone special, with a bond that couldn’t be matched. I’m feeling crushed at the same time as feeling guilty for feeling crushed. I know he wouldn’t say he thought of my new partner and his Dad equally and not because he doesn’t like my partner but because he holds his dad up on a pedestal. And rightfully so, he is a wonderful father and neither myself or my partner would ever attempt to interfere with that relationship. As far as I am aware my divorce has been as amicable as they come 50/50 split of everything including time with our son. I would never say a bad word about his dad to my son. I feel like I am being the best mother I can be and always trying to be better. Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing and have any advice on how you handled it?
Posted by m1shka001, 18th June 2016