Hello!

My 3 year old son refuses to use the toilet in any way. He doesn’t even want to sit on the toilet seat. I feel like it is my fault because I got angry at him once. I just had his little sister, he had an accident and I screamed at him. I don’t normally scream or get angry. Now every time he does a number 2 in this nappy, I try and tell him that it is wrong, then seat him on the toilet – but he just cries. What should I do? Please help.

Posted by anon, 11/7/13

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  • sounds like it was bad experience for him so you will have to go carefully.Buying a smaller seat to fit on toilet might also help,as it looks a big hole for small child. Show him you sitting on toilet too and it being OK may also help.Take it slow is way to go. Alo if you can check out a play-school in your are so can see smaller toilets there,explain to teachers what has happened and they may be able to give advice too as they workwith little ones on full time basis


  • There are some great tips here, how is he going!


  • so many good tips …. How is he going now?


  • How is he going now?


  • If he is going to kindy soon let him know that only big boys who use the toilet can go to kindy


  • i hope its went well


  • Hope you found the answer you were looking for.


  • How is your son doing now?


  • Some children just take time, give it time and he will eventually be able to go to the toilet


  • How is he going now?


  • That is really great to see feedback to say how the advice has helped.


  • Oh yay, it is great to hear a success story here, glad you got over that hurdle.


  • I’m so glad to see you’ve had some improvement


  • It can be so hard to keep your patience at times like this. Please don’t feel bad, even the most patient people snap.


  • Begin with a childs potty the gradually after time he will get used to the toilet


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