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I don’t know how to stop people kissing my baby. I have told my mother in law 100 times not to kiss him. And she still does probably even more so since we have told her not to. He is now 9 months old and people are still doing it. The other day we were out somewhere and my husband’s grandma had a random kid and her kissing our baby, my husband immediately said no and his grandma was arguing with him saying it’s okay I don’t have cold sores, my husband said I don’t care we don’t want you doing, and she continues to argue with him, I don’t know how to get people to respect us. When we have told them 50 times. I would never kiss someone’s baby so I don’t know why they do.

Posted by mom481395, 19th March 2022

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  • I was very strict and they could stop it or will not see a baby again.

  • I have the same problem with an inlaw – she had a cold sore and told me no it’s okay because I’m kissing him on the other side of my mouth, I was like um No not happening. I would rather have a little tiff now and take my baby off you then potentially have my baby contract something from you.
    And they think I’m going to let them babysit? Not happening until you can respect my wishes.

  • I find this so disrespectful to not abide by your wishes for your own baby. I would not tolerate it and say, as someone else said, if you cannot follow the rules, you cannot see my baby.

  • I usually hold the baby and walk away if I see someone is coming for that haha

  • We had similar problems- one solution.. follow our rules or u will not see baby never again

  • Some people are just Convinced it is their RIGHT to kiss and cuddle babies without permission and nothing seems to stop them!! With some people, an upfront rule followed quickly with some alternate suggestions for how to show affection can help – depending on the situation – like asking them to read baby a story, wave a rattle at them, play peekaboo etc.

  • I think it’s so rude that people are not respecting your wishes. My only advice would be to stop taking you baby to see them and when they ask why tell them why.

  • Just straight out tell them no if they don’t listen don’t let them hold the baby or cut them out of your life, if they don’t want to respect your wishes or the health of your baby there not worth having in your life all the best love

  • Don’t hand him over to people who don’t listen and if they still try then stop seeing them.

  • Tell them a health professional advised not too

  • I wouldn’t let them him. And when they ask why, remind them of your issue

  • The fact that you have told them and they aren’t listening is horrible! How much more clear can you be. Even your husband tells people. Don’t visit them if they don’t respect you and your wishes! If they don’t care about your child’s health they don’t deserve to be in their life..

  • Wow! How many times do they need to be told? BOUNDARIES are definitely required or this will be an ongoing issue of not listening to the parents. Stand your ground. It’s your child and you get to set the rules.

  • It might be a good idea to have the discussion with your mother-in-law without the baby being around. Assert yourself and make sure that your wishes are clear and that you won’t compromise on this. Unfortunately the very design of babies makes us want to kiss and cuddle all of their squishy deliciousness. That’s part of instinct that keeps the human race in existence.

  • I would tell them to stop or they won’t be able to see the child until they are fully grown. Tell her it is for her protection as you would not want her to be responsible for your child falling ill, or worse. It is such a dangerous thing, kissing babies. Their little immune systems are not developed enough to ward off illness.

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