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I don’t know how to stop people kissing my baby. I have told my mother in law 100 times not to kiss him. And she still does probably even more so since we have told her not to. He is now 9 months old and people are still doing it. The other day we were out somewhere and my husband’s grandma had a random kid and her kissing our baby, my husband immediately said no and his grandma was arguing with him saying it’s okay I don’t have cold sores, my husband said I don’t care we don’t want you doing, and she continues to argue with him, I don’t know how to get people to respect us. When we have told them 50 times. I would never kiss someone’s baby so I don’t know why they do.


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  • The good news is that the risk is for newborns. However, this is still not okay. I was in the same boat myself, but never found a decent way out of it. Good luck.


  • I’m sorry but family are always the worst for pushing your boundaries and I’m telling you to be firm to get your point across.. tell them if they can’t follow your rules they won’t get to see your child any more.. I would back right of from them for a while to prove your point. Harsh yes but needed also yes! They will start listening to your wants eventually.


  • Sit them down and explain the reasons why kissing your baby could potentially spread germs with a kid that is still so prone to getting sick, and that you would appreciate they respect your descision so that they understand.


  • So hard when it’s family. I wouldcstop going until they stop kissing


  • Search baby does from being kissed on Facebook and show her some of the videos of people telling there stories sharing pictures of there babies dying in hospital from someone kissing them. If that doesn’t deter your mother in law tell her she won’t get to hold the baby of she goes against your wishes again. Your baby your rules.


  • I was very strict and they could stop it or will not see a baby again.


  • I have the same problem with an inlaw – she had a cold sore and told me no it’s okay because I’m kissing him on the other side of my mouth, I was like um No not happening. I would rather have a little tiff now and take my baby off you then potentially have my baby contract something from you.
    And they think I’m going to let them babysit? Not happening until you can respect my wishes.


  • I find this so disrespectful to not abide by your wishes for your own baby. I would not tolerate it and say, as someone else said, if you cannot follow the rules, you cannot see my baby.


  • I usually hold the baby and walk away if I see someone is coming for that haha


  • We had similar problems- one solution.. follow our rules or u will not see baby never again


  • Some people are just Convinced it is their RIGHT to kiss and cuddle babies without permission and nothing seems to stop them!! With some people, an upfront rule followed quickly with some alternate suggestions for how to show affection can help – depending on the situation – like asking them to read baby a story, wave a rattle at them, play peekaboo etc.


  • I think it’s so rude that people are not respecting your wishes. My only advice would be to stop taking you baby to see them and when they ask why tell them why.


  • Just straight out tell them no if they don’t listen don’t let them hold the baby or cut them out of your life, if they don’t want to respect your wishes or the health of your baby there not worth having in your life all the best love


  • Don’t hand him over to people who don’t listen and if they still try then stop seeing them.


  • Tell them a health professional advised not too


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