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Our eight year old daughter Is being bullied, we attend a small school and it started when she was 6 ( yr 1) , we approached her teacher , the school , the other parents all to no avail fortunately the year ended and the following school year saw a teacher who missed nothing and certainly didn’t let behaviours escalate, the positive impact of this particular teacher is insurmountable but fast forward to this year(now. yr 3) and we have the same teacher as in yr 1. The bullying is rampant , the teacher has told our daughter in front of her peers ( and we assume those bullying) to save her tears for something worthy of them ! We are watching the traits that took time to build back up , the confidence, the strong will, the kindness and the smile all suffering and we now have a broken-hearted child who thinks she has no friends , isn’t sleeping , doesn’t want to go to school or anywhere and has asked every other day for the last six weeks if she can go to a different school . She has friends outside of school and is her self around others . Our daughter is by no means perfect but she is honest ( to a fault … incriminates herself often!) but she is not a “Mean Girl “. What do others suggest in management of mean girls , because we feel like there could be many years ahead of this nonsense and we have no life experience with bullying so we are flying blind!

Posted anonymously, 26th August 2020

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  • How did you go ? Did you move her to a different school ?

  • sounds like she would benefit from starting at another school or home schooling of you are able to. The current school are not doing enough to sort this out as a priority which is not something I would be ok with.

  • Get an appointment with the principal and outline factually what has happened in year 1, then year 3 and now. They have a zero policy on bullying and should be implementing strategies to assist your daughter. If still no luck, write a letter to the Minister of Education asking for assistance from a lack of support from your school.

  • I think it’s important to let your daughter know that a lot of the time people bully you because they are threatened, jealous or unhappy in their own lives. Bullies often have a deep seeded hurt or insecurity and find the only way to deal with it is to make others feel worse. I think you should ask to have a meeting with the principle and inform them of the teachers actions as they are not acceptable. Let them know that you are seriously considering moving her out of the school if nothing is done to stop it. I know how difficult it is to deal with as my own son suffered from bulling all the way through primary and high school :(

  • I was bullied for most of my school life, and I desperately wish I had been given the option to move schools.
    Unfortunately, sometimes its hard to nip it in the bud if you are unsure how to deal with it (talking about the teachers) and sometimes even approaching the parents doesn’t work either.

  • I feel she needs to feel happy about going to school and sounds like something is not right since it’s gone on for a while I would be looking at another school.

  • I would move my child to another school. Speak to the principal and let them know also let the school psychologist know.

  • Why is this tagged with #whyaregirlssomean ? Seriously MOMs can you remove that ridiculous unnecessary tag and replace it with something meaningful like ‘changing schools’ ? Talk about gender stereotyping to encourage the exact behavior this parent needs help with.

  • I would be looking at moving schools if your child is that unhappy. It may or may not work. but what is happening now is not working so its time to get her out of there.

  • Can you seek advice from the Yr 2 teacher, and see if she has any influence or can do anything? Leadership does not have to come from the top…

  • Yes I would consider a different school too. MY friend did this. Her daughter was bullied and not coping well, she changed schools and she flourished.

  • Personally I’d be thinking about changing schools. It’s terrible for the victim to have to be the one to go but sometimes it’s going to be better for your child. Much love to you all xx

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