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I have twin 3 year olds that love sleeping in our bed, we have number 4 coming and would love to get them to stop coming into our bed through the night. What ways can I get them to stop coming into our bed?

Posted by kjgarner, 28th October 2015

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  • I’ve always said “when you don’t leave my bed when I say, you won’t come in my bed the following day…
    When they come in your bed throughout the night when they please, I would set some firm rules and boundaries. For example they can come in only after a certain time or only on a certain day. Give them their own trainers clock and teach them time.

  • Uh oh, that is such a hard habit to break. Be prepared for lots of broken sleep as you try to fix it

  • Super nanny had some great tips and planners for doing this. Give her a google and see what downloadable things you can find. I think structure and routine is key.

  • keep putting them in their bed and give them a nightlight.

  • Are they afraid of their bedroom . I remembered we bought two fun bedlights from Ikea ( one a banana and a star shape lamp ) and they loved it . If they feel they bedrooms are more comfy to sleep in they will want to go . Hope it works because I wouldn’t be happy with them .

  • Starting to get hard to put them back in their beds now… when only 1 month of pregnancy to go they are getting heavy and I am not supposed to lift heavy stuff. Will keep trying!

  • You get up and put them back in their own beds. Every time they get in, you put them straight back. Don’t speak, avoid turning on lights and just keep trying

  • It is very hard but you need to persist that they sleep in their own beds. have they always done this or is it a recent development. I was told by a Nurse at a Medical Centre that children at around 2 1/2 – 3 y.o. develop a very imaginative mind and sometimes have nightmares, then come and climb into bed with you. I suggest you start when neither of you have to get up and go to work the next morning. It might take you a week or so to be the winner. Do they sleep in the same room or separate ones? During the process you may find that one disturbs the other one. On occasions we have woken up in the morning and discovered our little one asleep at the foot of our bed. How he didn’t fall off I don’t know as he moves about in his sleep a lot. You may have to try a reward system to encourage them to stay in their own beds. Things to consider are their bedrooms at moderate temperature. Do they get hot with their blankets or quilt on, uncover themselves then get cold. Ours have a habit of that.

  • If you figure it out let me know, I have a 2.5 yo that won’t leave our bed.

  • its a hard thing to do my son kept comming into our room until he turned seven….. dont maen to scare you but he grew out of it…. the only way we did it was by getting him really tired before bed. Our son stopped when we introduced a sport a night before bed. Or you could do what the supper nanny does every time the come in put them back… every time it might be very tiring and might work for you but it is very tiring and dint work for us at all but might for you.

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