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My mother in-law has Cancer. she is getting a mix of chemo and radiation treatment. at the moment EVERYTHING is hurting. she said even her hair hurts. we are expecting her hair to fall out in the next week or so. its already starting too. how do I make her feel better. any tips on remedies or things that will help relieve the pain. Any ideas are welcome. I am out of ideas. The only thing that makes her smile is my 3 month old daughter, who sits on her knee a babbles away at her. the sad thing is, she is even getting to weak to hold bub for more than a few minutes.

Posted by mcspenny, 2nd January 2014

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  • There isn’t much you can do for her pain. She would have pain medication. Just being there’s with her would be a comfort

  • Just be there for her. Spend time with her, find foods/drinks that she can stomach and bring them to her.

  • Just be there x im currently going through chemotherapy since being rediagnosed in feb. We have bad days, more than good. But just having someone there is the nicest feeling

  • Your support and company and I care package with made with love which could contain creams, magazines, crosswords, colouring in books for adults ,A head scarf, book,anything to take her mind of the pain :)

  • I had a similar situation and you just have to be there and show her she has love and support in these tough times by family and friends being there.

  • I think the best way to support her is to be there for when she needs, you are already doing a lot. The best thing is the happiness your little one is bringing to her, so just keep doing it.

  • From experience, you cannot make them better, so don’t try. Just love and support your friend/family member and be you. The more normal you are, the more they can open up and get the blaghh out! All the best to you both x

  • You sound like a very caring and thoughtful person. When I had chemo and radiation I really valued my close friendships. My sister bought me some divine moisturiser and body wash. My skin was so so dry and it was one of the most thoughtful things I received.

  • So heartfelt! It is good reading the comments and interest to this!

  • There’s not much you can do for her pain. Other then spend time with her, let her see your kids, talk, read, watch TV. Take her mind off things, thinking about something else

  • I too found the best distraction for my mother in law when she was going through cancer treatment was seeing her grandkids. Other than distractions, I don’t think there is too much you can do. Although, in hindsight, I know the presence of certain people made her feel worse. If I could go back and do it again, I would insist those people stay away or keep sone comments to themselves. Some of her kids kept trying to push her into doing things she didn’t want,many it didn’t help her at all

  • I hope things have improved since your post.

  • Spending time with her, comfort her and if hair does fall out maybe a makeover if she feels up to it

  • i think lots of visits would help a bit and i hope she gets better soon

  • I hope everything has been working out for you

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