It’s a constant struggle. I’m working full time with 4 children at the moment, and a few things I find helpful are:
Meal planning and meal prepping – I set aside time on a Sunday morning to get all my meal prepping done for the week, it helps on those nights when you cannot be bothered after work to be able to heat something up.
I find if I do a little bit of laundry every night, it doesn’t pile up into an unmanageable mess.
Split the chores – I give my husband a list of things to complete every week

Prior to children, I would set aside a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday to get all my housework and meal prepping done.

If your struggling at the start and can afford to, maybe suggest getting a cleaner in for a hour a week or so, to lighted the load. If not, you will find a way to make a new routine. It just takes 21 days to set a new habit and make it a routine. You can do it. You got this.

I think one of the most important things about this is balance and compromise between you and your partner to ensure you both get the time you need to also let yourselves have some relaxation time to yourselves.

I do my meal planning each week and check out the specials ready for click and collect at the end of the week.
I usually do the laundry during the week but leave the full house clean for the weekends.
I have kids so I try and get the vacuum going everyday. Sometimes it doesn’t always happen depending on how much time I have at the end of the day and how much mess they make but I usually try and just get everything off the floor so I can get it done.

I found using a meal service like everyplate or hellofresh really helped our household get into the routine of cooking every night.

I try to cook/prepare enough in each meal for another and we have leftovers every other night.
I always clean as I go, wash dishes as i go. Put the laundry on when I take dirty clothes to the laundry. Just don’t waste those moments when you are standing around waiting for a load to finish or a dish to cook.

6 month old baby.
Once he’s down I spend 20 minutes cleaning up.

There are lots of cleaning hacks on YouTube to help help make you get through chores quicker. Is there enough time in the morning to put on a quick load of washing? Could you get up half an hour earlier and do a few quick chores. You could try a slow cooker for meals. If you put it on in the morning it will be cooked and ready to go when you come home. You could try do a really big clean over the weekend but who wants to spend their weekends doing chores?

It’s hard work, I have three boys and both of us work full-time.
You need to have set days for some of those chores,
Take turns in cooking and picking stuff up from the supermarket with your partner or do you really need it.
You could always pre make meals, or at least pre prep meals

Planning. Planning is so important. Meal plan so you don’t have to make decisions when you’re tired. Consider making a few meals in advance on weekends (on many weekdays I chuck some vegies in the steamer and heat up a main meal that’s already made). And use small bits of time – eg while waiting for the kettle to boil, clean a bit of the kitchen.

I watched a great video the other day on this topic. Basically if you are thriving in one area, you’re making a sacrifice in the other. Ultimately you have to decide what is best for your family and you. Do you want to be the mum who works hard or the Mum who makes it to every soccer game? I try to just make a balance because we can’t give everything 100% it’s just impossible

We do a meal delivery service a few nights a week, that take the pressure off of cooking. With cleaning I schedule a time on the weekend to do it. Just be realistic and flexible. Nothing has to be perfect. You could also consider getting in a cleaning company to help out, even once a fortnight.

I stock up in frozen stuff, only used ideas her safe cutlery plates etc, bathe kids together at the same time , prepare list of priorities

While on a teachers wage and working full time, I set aside an amount for a cleaner (weekly or fortnightly depending on my budget) and got hellofresh or similar meal boxes to cut shopping and meal decision making time right down.

It is challenging to work, be a good partner/friend and look after a baby all at the same time. Routines help make create a balance for me. Also, easing back into work helped me adjust- I am still working part-time after having my baby. Cannot imagine being fill-time right now.