Earlier this year I was hosting a birthday party for a family member.
Roughly two hours prior to the party starting, one of the guests arrived. I felt slightly relieved thinking that I had an extra pair of hands to help me with my eight kids… boy oh boy was I wrong!
She produced a MASSIVE basket of laundry and said she was doing me a favour by coming early to drop off her clothing so that I could wash, dry and have them ready for her to take with her after the party.
I was irritated, because I still had three mains to cook as well as decorating to do- but I wasn’t going to let it ruin the party vibe.
During the party she asked me how her clothes were going and one of the guests heard and then asked if I would do theirs as well- I seriously thought they were joking. I mean WHO drives around with dirty clothes in their car?! But they weren’t kidding.
They dashed outside and came back in with more washing for me to do- DURING the party.
I got it all done, and much later I did mention to them that I am not really fond of laundry so as to try and deter the same thing from happening in the future.
Recently a similar thing happened, except I had exam on and the day before the exam they wanted me to wash a massive load of laundry and have it ready for them to pick up that same night.
I know this doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it is when I already have a family of ten to launder clothing for.
They said that I shouldn’t make a big deal about it because it’s just laundry and all I am is a stay at home mum so they’re providing me with things to do because I do nothing all day- I can’t tell if this hurts me because the truth hurts or whether what they’re saying is actually really hurtful.
It’s just clothes, I completely understand, but they most certainly wouldn’t be washing laundry for me, ever. So why is it supposed to be tolerable for me to do their laundry just because all I am is a stay at home mum and just because they feel they’re too busy to wash their own clothing?
Surprisingly I actually do stuff- admittedly I don’t know exactly what that ‘stuff’ is, but just the regular things that all parents do I guess.
Am I being unreasonable not wanting to take on their extra loads?
Sure, most of us would do anything for family, but where does one draw the line?
Would you allow your family to place you in the same position- or would you tell them to just do it themselves- especially if they’re only making you do it because they hate doing it themselves as it takes too much time away from more fun life experiences for them, whereas they see laundry as your duty as just a stay at home mum?
Posted by someonesmother, 29th March 2021