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How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare? We are up to week 4 and it starts from the the weekend (goes Tue and Wed) and when going to bed tells me not going and in the mornings is lots of tears….and when I leave the centre, there are lots of tears also.

Posted by Daniella 31.1.2013

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  • my two oldest didnt cry at all. as soon as we would arrive they would say bye mum and run away. my third and youngest didnt cry at all for the first week, then cried every day for the next 4 weeks but then stopped just as fast as she stared.

  • All my kids were fine on day one. Maybe try talking really positively about child care when he’s at home with you.

  • All kids are different. Just keep trying.

  • There are really interesting comments on this!

  • Sounds a bit extreme. Some kids just don’t like it. My son cried when dropped off, no idea how long for but no other crying

  • How did you end up going?

  • Luckily this was not a big deal for my kids, but I understand some can keep it up for months. Would it be possible for you to spend half an hour there with them one morning so they see it as a place Mummy spends time too?

  • This can take some time but it will be worth it hopefully!! Good Luck!

  • How is your child going now? Have you thought to ask the staff how long they cry for once you leave?

  • It varies between children. They need to feel secure in the knowledge that you’ll be back for them. Children usually calm down after the parent leaves & are distracted by other activities.

  • I have had three of my five in childcare and have found that the more that you show them that you are concerned the more that they will play on that so if you dont make a big deal and just pull the band aid off quick so to speak and dont hang around when u drop them off {I know its hard } but trust in the teachers they are well trained and dont let your child feel that its a bad thing to be away from you and assure them that you will always be there for them when its pick up time .

  • My lO has been doing this since he was 10 months old he’s now 2. After you actually leave they will calm down, he normally cries when I leave him with anyone. Has gotten better with me leaving him with my husband. It does pull at your heart strings but they are fine.

  • I hope things are better now? Lots of good suggestions were made :)

  • You need to persist. I know it feels awful to see them this way. Mine took a few months before the tears went away.

  • All children are different and some just need more time to accept the changes and settle in.

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