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How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare? We are up to week 4 and it starts from the the weekend (goes Tue and Wed) and when going to bed tells me not going and in the mornings is lots of tears….and when I leave the centre, there are lots of tears also.

Posted by Daniella 31.1.2013

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  • My Son did this for three years, and I should have listen to him ,as I changed centre’s and on his second day no more tears instantly and comes home happy.

  • I worked in childcare and it is Different for each Child. Usually 2 weeks it would take for Most.

  • Working I childcare and having a boy in different childcare centre. I found that they would only cry for few minutes when mum/dad dropped them off or picked them up. It usually takes about 3 to 8 weeks for them to go happily to daycare without crying at all. (Depending on their mood).

    Just makes sure you talk to them about childcare, that mummy has to go to work and that they get to have a play at daycare, some yummy food and a sleep and then mummy will pick them up. Quick kiss and a cuddle and leave.

    My son still cries (pretend cry) when I drop him off somedays. But won’t cry if another person takes him. Sometimes they just like to make us feel bad.
    How old is your child? Could you ask them why they don’t want to go to daycare?
    Sorry there isn’t a quick answer.

  • I really hope your little one has gotten use to the day care by now. My little one stopped crying after 2 days. (He goes 3 days a week to a family day carer.) Sure, there are the odd days when he cries and says he doesn’t want to go, but he’s usually fine within 5 minutes after drop off.

    Our FDC told us that she’s looked after a child a couple of years ago who cried from the moment of drop off to his nap time, and then would start again from 3pm to when he was picked up. For 14 weeks. Yes, 14 weeks. But, then on week 15, he cried for 10 minutes in the morning, and stopped. No more tears after that day.

    Different kids take different periods of time to adjust. I hope yours is now in a good routine and has fully adjusted to being at day care.

  • Coming from a childcare worker, most children stop within minutes.

  • You could also speak to the childcare workers and ask for some ideas on how to make it less upsetting for you both

  • My daughter has been going to childcare for three years now and still has a crying jag at times. I haven’t found anything specific that helps all the time – some kids just cry. It hurts, but I don’t indulge her in it any more or ever apologise, just try and plan with her what will help. It’s heartbreaking, but not uncommon!

  • Each child is different so it can be hard to tell when they will settle. I would try not to show that you are distressed when she does this as that probably wont help things. I hope it all work out for you soon.

  • Has this settled for you. It can be very heart breaking for you & distressing for them. But they usually get distracted quickly & carry on with the day.

  • Mine didnt cry thankfully, I got them used to being away from me by staying away from home every now and again

  • My little girl started childcare when she was 2 years old as I had to return to work full time. She would cry the whole time I was there and cling to me as well. It made me upset but then the careers told me that she stop crying as soon as I am gone. I wasn’t convinced so I used to stay outside and watch through the window and yes she stopped crying after few minutes. But this went for about 2 months and she used to only go for two days. Now she is 3.5 year and goes there 3 days a week. She still doesn’t “love to go there” but now that she got few friends she don’t mind going.

  • My daughter cried for two days then was fine (she was 3 when she started).
    When she started ballet classes on her own i was dreading it thinking she’d put up a fuss, but there were no tears.
    After the Christmas/New Year holidays, the crying started again, and lasted about a week, and there are some mornings when she’ll carry on when I drop her off.
    If you talk to the teachers you’ll find that each child is different, and that it usually stops within minutes of the parents walking out the door….we feel more pain due to the crying and begging than what they do xo

  • and their age our son went at 2 and cried and cried every time we took him so we took him out and we went to playgroup instead then when he was ready around 3 we put him back in and he loves it so much we get told we we pick him up too early to go home and come back later….. :(

  • depends on the child really

  • I think it depends on their age. When my 2 were younger (like 2yrs) they would cry but the carers said as soon as i had gone it would stop. I would make a point of watching him/her when you get there in the afternoon from a place they can not see you from. Our kindy had one way glass so it was easy, but if you have to hide around a door etc do it. That way you will be able to see how they are going without you. If there are any problems with the carers you should be able to pick this up also by watching their reactions to each other. Goodluck, its so hard when they are upset.
    Also my kids changed their perspective once they found out their older cousin (who they look up to alot) went to Kindy. Then they started looking forward to it thinking it was what “big kids” do. If you have anyone in your family or friends like that maybe use that approach.

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