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How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare? We are up to week 4 and it starts from the the weekend (goes Tue and Wed) and when going to bed tells me not going and in the mornings is lots of tears….and when I leave the centre, there are lots of tears also.

Posted by Daniella 31.1.2013

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  • I found mine stopped within the first couple of weeks. Maybe your little one isnt ready just yet to be left. If you really do need to have them in child care you need to just leave and tell them you will be back

  • all kids are different. It may sound harsh but if you know there are no issues with carers or other kids, ignoring the behaviour in an assertive but reassuring way is best. I worked in childcare before my kids and was very used to it! We used to tell mums to go through the drop off routine, sign in, sunscreen, hat and say goodbye and then go! No hanging around trying to settle as it just gave them attention and encouraged the behaviour. As for the weekend, dont bring it up. If your child brings it up, say assertively, Yes you are going to kindy to play while mummy goes to work then change the subject. Dont keep talking about it. Talking about it all the time will feed the anxiety. It would be heartbreaking but you have to show you care but this is whats happening and get on with it. brave face in front of your little one, have a cry in the car on the way to work…goodluck xox

  • My little only cried for a few minutes. Is it possible you could spend some time at daycare with your bubby to get a feel for the place and help them to get used to it and hopefully to feel more comfortable?

  • Poor mumma and bubba. It’s such a hard transition.. Especially if they have been home with you. It does take little ones a little while to ne’er stand that mummy is going to come back, but once they get it – it makes life so much easier :) good luck

  • Heartbreaking. I’d be trying to work out a plan with the child care workers to redirect & distract your little one through the day. Hope it gets better soon

  • With my daughter, it toke her around 2 months to stop crying when i left her at daycare. Hope it gets better for you & your child.

  • Just wondering has it got any better?

  • I have 3 year old son who is very attached to me, so there are a lot of tears at home when he cries how much he hates school and at the drop off, it’s very difficult to leave him like that, but I call the preschool 15 minutes later and he’s happily playing with kids.

  • Every child is different, and when they stop it doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen again. My 3 1/2 year old was fine after 2 weeks initially, but then after the Christmas break she started again. That lasted for about a week but has now started again. It’s heartbreaking but most childcare workers will tell you they stop within minutes

  • I used to work in childcare centre before I became a nanny and believe me you’re not alone. I know it isn’t easy but you’re doing the right thing. Taking a child to daycare is a fantastic way for them to learn to socialise, and that’s just it, they’re learning. It’s easier to cry then to express emotions with words like we do. Remember a time when you started a new job and how long it took you to feel totally comfortable there. Its a similar process, it’s just that we’ve learnt to control our emotions in a different way.

  • My child did this for a term it was so hard to leave him and we had to move house so everything changed and so did his attitude and he did not cry again!

  • My first daughter cried everytime but once out of the room she pretty much stopped. My second daughter only cries if she is the first one there but will stop after a little while after leaving

  • My daughter started childcare in July last year and still to date has a little cry when i drop her off. I know it’s probably separation anxiety as she’s fine a couple of minutes layer when i leave and she looks like she’s having fun when i pick her up. Hoping that it will get better soon.

  • I had to blackmail my daughter to stop her crying. When she went i took a little gift which she couldnt open until i was gone. After 2 weeks she was just happy to go. She only went for 7 weeks as we couldnt afford it.

  • :( My 14 month old has been going for 11 weeks now (only Monday and Fridays) but as soon as I walk into the room with him he clings to me. I try n sit n play with him for about 15 mins to settle him, but still he screams when I leave :( Its heartbreaking but they tell mehe doesn’t cry long nthe girls who work there are great n give him a big cuddle until he calms.

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