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How long does it take for your child to stop crying at childcare? We are up to week 4 and it starts from the the weekend (goes Tue and Wed) and when going to bed tells me not going and in the mornings is lots of tears….and when I leave the centre, there are lots of tears also.

Posted by Daniella 31.1.2013

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  • Could it be your child doesn’t feel comfortable with the teachers in that room? Maybe ask the director to put your child in another room with different teachers and see how that goes

  • My 19 month old little boy is still screaming when I leave and he has been going for just over a year now :(

  • depends as sometimes it has nothing to do with the child also as sometimes its the childcare workers they dont like or the children in it. Thats something else to look into as it does happen in afew places where kids are not being tended to properly or you have nasty workers there who are very rude as well as some children who can be very nasty also

  • Hi my son cried for his two days he was in preschool last year even though he knew the teacher well as he’d been going to pick his sister up for 2 years. He would tell us he wasn’t going the night before and in the morning and on the weekend oh and in the car. The teacher was great and we found we had to leave quickly. Didn’t matter He had friends there with him. Within 10 minutes he was fine. It was hard to leave him. But it did go on for about half a year! I’ve been told its quite normal.

  • My son has just started his 4th week. He is almost 3. They have to death him from me kicking and crying. When we pull into the driveway the me go home mum starts. I don’t tell him we are going to “school” in the morning otherwise is a fight to get him in the car. They reckon 6-8 weeks he should be better. By the time I drop him off and get into the car he is fine and having fun. A lot of it you will find is a display for you in hope you will take your little one home

  • In my case it was the centre wasn’t right for them, changed to an awesome centre and there were no tears from day 2. If you haven’t already, go and watch the interaction when no one knows your watching.

  • my daughter didn’t stop until I put her in 3 days a week then she settled, 2 days wasn’t enough for her and just made her upset, with 3 days she settled into a routine and was happy

  • I find if I discuss the night before & on the drive to daycare what is going to happen my daughter handles the day much better. So for example I make it all very exciting that she gets to paint & play with her friends & tell her “you’ll play outside, then have morning tea, the do your activities, then have lunch, then sleep on your special bed, then have afternoon tea, then when you’re playing with your friends mummy will come back!” it also helps if u tell her what I’m doing that day so she knows she isn’t missing out on anything special. She always takes her comfort toy too.

  • Until she is readyto stop, but I found with my son (and he is now at high school) it wasnt the place but the fact I was leaving him, so would leave something of mine that reassured him I was coming back, I left something that was familiar to him but not overly important had it got lost etc. He was fine with that and the tears at drop off stopped.

  • Sounds like the child has anxiety. Most kids settle in a couple of weeks but becoming anxious about the upcoming event is abnormal in my view. Change of centre maybe or family daycare?

  • What does the Kindy say? Do they settle after you leave?

  • I am a mum and a preschool teacher for 15 years. All children are different. So settle straight away, however some children can take up to a few months. Children taking time to settle is very common…….they always settle eventually. I have worked with 1000s of children and never met one that doesn’t settle eventually. Just hang in their……it is probably harder for you than them.xxxx

  • My son cried every day for a year lol then just stopped when he went up a class!! Good luck hope he stops crying soon

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