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I have a 4 going on 5 month old son, my step daughter is 2 years old (terrible twos >.

Posted by momma_bear13, 17th July 2020

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  • I personally think that for them to grow a bond, as well as yourself bonding with your step child and her not feeling left out, to maybe let her do as much as she can. Grabbing nappies for baby, if bittle fed then try giving him some bottle with your assistance and dummy etc. Play peek a boo together and let them both do tummy time together.

  • A two year old, not much and definitely not unsupervised. First born can be awesome little helpers tho

  • We had problems with one of our babies trying to gouge our eyes out, not the other way around. I would allow the 2 year old to help with nappy change but she will probably resent it if you expect her to deal with the “used” nappy. You can teach her how to give a baby a bottle and hold the bottle correctly. Occasionally a baby is thirsty but doesn’t want to be fed, especially when the air is warm. Maybe she can amuse the baby with his/her toys but you may need to watch what is happening. It will give you free hands to fold washing, perhaps even put it away.

  • You can get help when changing babies clothes and nappies.Specially feeding time i got lot help from my son when he was 2 year old when i feeding my 6 month old.

  • I would try to involve her as much as you can and make her feel special.

  • I am figuring this out as well. My daughter loves to help but she is a bit much with her baby brother. I ask her to get me whatever I need like nappies or wipes. She really enjoys being part of the process

  • I would let her feel as involved as you can! It’s hard adjusting to a sibling at any age. Make her feel as though some decisions are just hers like what should xxx wear today but guide her answers.

  • Supervised you can let her help as mush as your comfortable. Toddlers can be a great help! But remember that they can suddenly get super jealous and act violent. My little sister would be so amazing with bubs when she was a toddler, but then put of the blue would start trying to gouge their eyes out. If she wants to help with absolutely everything and you don’t want her to, get her a doll and get her to do whatever your doing with you son to the doll as practice

  • If supervised, I think it’s fine. They just want to feel included I guess. I offer a lot of praise and remind my daughter to be gentle and surely enough, the more I let her help, the less she pushes for it because she knows she can whenever.

  • Just be careful with as she could give something that might chock on, so watch her closely. Let her help by getting clothes or nappies etc, be careful in case she isn’t jealous.

  • It depends how gentle she is with him – my son was very good, so we let him help a lot. If you’re not so confident, ask her to get things for the baby eg wipes, toys, rather than letting her hold him.

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