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I have a good friends wedding coming up and I am wondering how much money I should give them? Are you meant to cover your own costs for the wedding, or if it’s a good friend, are you meant to pay more? How much money for a wedding gift?

Posted anonymously, 4th December 2019

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  • I think it really depends on your situation. We always cover our heads plus more

  • It depends on the circumstances. If it was a good friend I’d be giving more, probably around $100

  • for a good friend probably $150-$200 depending on what you can afford of course

  • We have previously given between $100 – $200

  • If they have requested money for their honeymoon etc, I would give cash in an envelope with a card etc. Based on our income etc, it is anywhere from $50 – $100 or if they are already living together, and have “everything” they need for their home, then I like to “think outside the box”
    I try and tailor a present to suit them as a couple. Gift cards, or a night out, etc. I’m not a huge fan of giving money.

  • I give what i would normally give for my hubby and i to go out for dinner, slightly more if its a fancy place. If its a really good friend i put in extra – generally between $50-$200

  • The nice thing to do would be to give around the cost of your seat at the reception but it’s very flexible. I like to give a Woolworths e-gift card as a gift because I don’t like handling cash and it can be emailed. And everyone needs groceries.

  • Normally if it’s a good friend 200$ would be great in an envelope

  • I’d definitely be covering the costs then adding more depending on whether they were family, really close friends or just friends

  • If it’s a very close friend and your and hubby are going I think around $200 for both is fair. Minimum paid per head these days for a wedding is around the $100 so I personally like to be close to covering it.

  • Hi, to the previous Mum who wrote, that she didn’t think expected to contribute to wedding costs.
    I really don’t think that was what the question was asking. I believe she meant, “do you need to put in, at least the cost of my seating to be there, in the form of a gift, eg- if the wedding is say $150 per head for families to invite guests, does the giver, feel that they must at least put in $150 per person ($300 per couple) to give as a gift if they attend the wedding. As in, if they are paying for couples to attend at $300.00 – should the invited feel that they MUST make such a “gift” .
    Wow, thats tricky, … you are NOT asking people who can only afford to “gift” large amounts, you truly want your friends to attend – so – I would put in what “feels” right for you – but do consider that the parents or the bride & groom do spend a great deal, to impress and invite family & friends – so give what you can truly afford and “feel” right with. It’s a gift and there shouldn’t be shame in not giving the same as others, everybody has different relationships and circumstances, to the “about to be married couple”. Share their joy on their day & give a lovely meaning card and gift.

  • Pretty sure if you were expected to contribute to the wedding costs, you would already have been asked. As for the wedding gift, depends on how well you know the bride and groom and how much money you’ve got to spare.

  • I do what my budget is at the time,$100-$200 is pretty good!

  • I think it depends on your circumstances but generally we would give between $50 and $100. Amount depending on how close we are

  • $100 in a card is sufficient I think or 150 .

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