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I have a good friends wedding coming up and I am wondering how much money I should give them? Are you meant to cover your own costs for the wedding, or if it’s a good friend, are you meant to pay more? How much money for a wedding gift?


Posted anonymously, 4th December 2019


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  • If it’s a very close friend and your and hubby are going I think around $200 for both is fair. Minimum paid per head these days for a wedding is around the $100 so I personally like to be close to covering it.


  • Hi, to the previous Mum who wrote, that she didn’t think expected to contribute to wedding costs.
    I really don’t think that was what the question was asking. I believe she meant, “do you need to put in, at least the cost of my seating to be there, in the form of a gift, eg- if the wedding is say $150 per head for families to invite guests, does the giver, feel that they must at least put in $150 per person ($300 per couple) to give as a gift if they attend the wedding. As in, if they are paying for couples to attend at $300.00 – should the invited feel that they MUST make such a “gift” .
    Wow, thats tricky, … you are NOT asking people who can only afford to “gift” large amounts, you truly want your friends to attend – so – I would put in what “feels” right for you – but do consider that the parents or the bride & groom do spend a great deal, to impress and invite family & friends – so give what you can truly afford and “feel” right with. It’s a gift and there shouldn’t be shame in not giving the same as others, everybody has different relationships and circumstances, to the “about to be married couple”. Share their joy on their day & give a lovely meaning card and gift.


  • Pretty sure if you were expected to contribute to the wedding costs, you would already have been asked. As for the wedding gift, depends on how well you know the bride and groom and how much money you’ve got to spare.


  • I do what my budget is at the time,$100-$200 is pretty good!


  • I think it depends on your circumstances but generally we would give between $50 and $100. Amount depending on how close we are


  • $100 in a card is sufficient I think or 150 .


  • It really comes down to your own financial situation and also how close the friendship is. It is what you are comfortable with as at the end of the day you have to be ok with what you gave.


  • I think it’s really what you can afford. If you don’t have much then $50ish is fine. If you can afford more then $100-$200 is an appropriate amount. Family or best friend maybe upto $500


  • A very close family friend of ours said that Flight Centre vouchers would be appreciated if people were struggling for ideas. However I came up with a better idea for them. Their only car suddenly needed emergency service even though it was definitely serviced regularly so I offered to contribute to that. They said that was the best present ever.


  • As a rule of thumb, I give $100 for family members, $75 for really good friends, and $50 for others.


  • $50-$100. But if you are on a tight budget and they are a true friend don’t feel guilty for giving less. Everyone is in a different situation


  • I usually do $100-$150.
    However we weren’t in a position financially a few years ago to be able to afford to do that and I always felt embarrassed and judged only being able to put $50 in


  • I generally spend about $100. It doesn’t matter if they’re not close friends.


  • We do $100 for weddings


  • I think these days its $100


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