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Being a single of mum of two children, I’ve been single for a long time. Recently I met someone who changed my mind about anything I ever thought relationships could be like. He is kind, fun, thoughtful and is an amazing person to my children as well as a great dad to his own. It has been about six months now, and I can’t wait for what the future holds. What I am asking is, at the six month mark did you know you had found the one?

Posted anonymously, 11th December 2019

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  • Yes, I married my husband after 6 months dating :)

  • I knew my husband was the one after a couple of months. It is important to know your partner well though when children are involved because they too get emotionally attached to people.

  • Oh yes. My husband told me after six days that he wanted to marry me; I told him I’d like him to phrase that as a question sometime, but to take the stress out of it, he should know I’d be saying yes when he did. Sixteen years later we’re still happy.

  • I think you are the only one to answer that. I think it has a lot to do with how well you know them as well. I have known people who have “felt” after 6 months that they have met the one, but then years down the track, realised they were only sreing what they wanted to see.

  • You know what you know but 6 months is still a bit soon in some regards. I was a single Mum of 2 kids for 5 years and my partner changed my mind too and something about us just seemed right. We probably took a bit longer because he hadn’t had the time i’d had to get his life together but we moved in together after a year and a bit and it’s been a year and 7 months now and we are constantly learning new things, juggling our lives and becoming better people. We knew we were ready to tackle things together and that’s what helped us take the leap. 6 months sounds short but it can feel like forever, it really depends on your relationship. You do you, everything will fall into place :)

  • I think after six months you have a pretty good idea of what’s going on. Although nothing is certain, what feels a hundred per cent right now might not feel the same years down the track. If you’re both happy now, go for it, regardless of what the future might bring

  • I think that you just know when you know.. I don’t think that love is something that can be measured or explained.

  • I suspected from our first date that my now husband of 20 years was “the one”. He said something on that first date that was very unexpected and very sweet and it drew me to him.

  • I was still in the honeymoon period at 6 months. After about a year, I knew I wanted to marry my husband and we didn’t get engaged until we were together for 5 years. When you know, you know but I personally think 6 months is still too early because you haven’t had a chance to start to notice his annoying habits.

  • There is nothing wrong with wanting someone else to share your life with. By the sound of it he seems pretty good. Having someone that’s good with your kids is always a huge tick

  • No, I am still looking, but not even looking, gave up. From what I have read you do not really know anyone properly for at least 2 years and that depends on how much time you have spent with them and the circumstances you spent time with them.

  • It all goes back to a gut instinct. You will know. If after six months he is still kind and thoughtful, all the things that you want in a man I’d say that time doesn’t matter. If it feels right then go for it. If he makes you and your children happy then go for it.

  • From what you are describing everything sounds great and you are in a good place. Keep him around and see what the future brings :)

  • Sometimes your heart just knows. And you know it best.
    If you are worried about it being too soon, just give it a bit more time, but hopefully your instincts are right.

  • Yes for sure, 6 months after I met my husband we married :)

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