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I just received the sad news that a good friend’s mum has passed away from cancer. I am unable to attend the funeral and live in a different state so was wondering what if anything I should send her.

Posted anonymously, 25th July 2014

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  • A card and flowers would be much appreciated.

  • Send flowers, cook meals etc

  • I would send a sympathy card. Include your contact details, address and phone number, so she knows how to contact you if needed

  • A card, just to let her know you’re thinking of her. And maybe follow up with a phone call at a later date,when things may gave settled a little

  • Like everyone suggests send her a card with a letter, call her every few days to check on her and just let her know you might not be there in person but you are there anytime she needs to talk.

  • I just lost my Mum to cancer on Thursday and really all I need is to know I have some one when I need to talk or cry to. This does help alot to know you have people who care. My Cuz is in another state and he rings me every day to check on me and to be my rock and my shoulder as well my Sister in law is in England and she is sending my Mum flowers for her funeral on Friday and that means a real lot to me to know my Mum had touch so many people so far away and was loved so much.

  • Aw sorry to hear !!
    I personally would send a card to say sorry with a bible verse.

  • Think about what you would appreciate from a friend if you were in a similar situation. Maybe a sincere card with words from the heart is all that is needed. Nothing really can help your friends pain, but knowing that you are there and you care is warming.

  • A lovely letter or card with reference to her mum and a phone call so if she needs to talk you are there to listen. Perhaps plan a trip to meet up either invite her to stay or meet half way or visit so it is something for her to look forward to in a few weeks/ months time.

  • A card and a phone call to let her know you are thinking of her would be nice. I found that is all I wanted when I lost my grandmother – someone to talk to

  • Having lost a parent myself I needed to talk about my loss & a good friend can help during the grieving process. Keep in contact with her on a regular basis & let her know you are available to chat at anytime.

  • Send a card. Call her. Call her again in a few weeks when everyone else has forgotten.

  • Something simple like flowers & a card

  • flowers and a card is always nice, or if you have any friends or family close by maybe they can deliver on your behalf to make sure she is ok.

  • Send her flowers for her and maybe a really lovely card letting you know you are there for her

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