I have an almost two year old and I am unsure how to let him know his grandmother is passing away. I want to be honest. Any tips on how to handle the situation?

Posted by sonialea, 6th December 2013

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  • Grandma is in heaven and she is looking after everyone up in heaven.

  • Advising them about a passing is hard. But they will adapt.

  • I hope it has gone as ok as it can go

  • So sorry to hear that. There are some great books available about talking to children about death.

  • Some really good answers there.

  • I’m sorry to hear this!!! :(

  • Some really good answers below

  • Really sorry that this is happening, just let them know that his grandmother is sick and its her time to go and when she does she will be going to sleep forever in a good place.

  • My Pop past away recently. My son had just turned two and I used words that he would understand. I told him that Pop has ‘gone’ to be in heaven with his Pa (my Dad passed before he was born and we always talk about him). Honestly, I don’t think he understood all that much and we chose not to take him to the funeral.

  • Tell the truth she won’t be with you anymore but if you ever need them look up at the stars at night and that’s where they will be looking over you just go with what you feel is best in your situation as everyone’s is different best of luck with little one and sorry to hear about mom

  • Honesty is always the best way, kids can get angry at you later on if they find out u were lying to them. A 2 year old has no concept of death now but as he gets older just keep the communication open & the conversation going & he will have a good understanding of death without having to feel that devastating grief. Letting him see your sadness & explaining that too will instill in him that it’s ok to feel sad & let it out. It’s great to be ‘strong’ for your kids but also very important to see you let out your feelings sometimes.
    All the best. xx

  • I don’t know how you tell them. My two year old understands when his grandparents go home and he asks for them all the time. Maybe just tell him that she is going to heaven and even though he won’t be able to see her anymore she will always be with him? He won’t really understand but is it better than saying nothing. He will know you are sad so I believe you will have to tell him something. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

  • we haven’t lost a relative since children but we have lost a pet our then nearly 2 year old was very close to. We were open and upfront saying he had passed away and wasn’t coming back. It was very sudden and unexpected. We talked about it and didn’t pretend like he didn’t exist. Our son seemed a little sad but accepting.

  • Thoughts with you and the family at this time, I also have a relative who is elderly and has cancer and is coming to the end of his life, I have a 4.5 and a 1.5 year old and this post was really helpful, so thanks for finding the strength to post, I personally don’t believe in heaven and telling children they are sleeping is not a good thing either. perhaps a book to explain things to the kids would be the best,one that you believe in if it’s a heaven type one and you want to say heaven then go for it.

  • We went thru that just recently its hard .and we told the boys poppy is in heaven and watching down on us and remember the good times and he loved you boys. ( I week after my boy who doesn’t speak said poppa )

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