“How do I stop my 6 year old from wetting the bed? Have tried mostly everything. I have put a torch under his pillow for the night, but he still wets the bed. Thanks”

Posted by Amanda, 20/5/2013

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  • Have you seen a doctor about it? I was told it is not uncommon for boys to not start producing the hormone that gives them the ability to wake up to go the the toilet until well into primary school years. If its a hormonal issue, there may not be much you can do behaviourally about it, but at least is you get it confirmed by the doctor you know its not your fault and your son will know its not his fault either.


  • My son is 7.5 and we are in the process of using the Wet Stop 3 Alarm, I highly recommend. We have gone from completely wetting through dry nites and sometimes even through the brolly sheet as well to 1st night normal wet but alarm stopped him enough to finish in the toilet, then next 5 nights just the first drop on the undies and straight to the toilet we are now at about 2.5 weeks completely dry not a even a drop. The doctor told up stopping fluids or restricting the types of foods etc does not work as the brain has to tell the body to stop producing the fluid over night. The Alarm has definitely helped us.



  • P.s there is also a bed alarm that goes off when wet, it was very loud and woke everyone except my son so it didn’t work for us, but it may be worth trying.



  • You can’t. All you can do is support him and this hopefully leaves the lines of communication open, so if it bothers him you can talk about it. My son is almost 9 and still has accidents. We saw a continence nurse who said to make sure they eat at least two pieces of fruit daily so they are not constipated as this presses on the urethra. No liquids for 2 hours before bed. Get urine tested to ensure there’s no infection too. My son has started taking a nasal spray at bedtime which can help train the body not to urinate overnight. While he is on it he is dry, but you are meant to stop for a week between scripts to test out its effectiveness. During this time he still has accidents, but not as bad. So that’s something else to consider. They say it can take months to work.
    To save your washing get a waterproof mattress protector, and I put a waterproof mac/ sheet on top(from big W, about $30) then the sheet, and on top I put another mac. This way you take off layer by layer and replace as needed. When this first started happening I used to get angry, and found it made it worse. Now we understand and have strategies to cope in place it is much easier. My son was not bothered by it until quite recently, which is why we are on the spray.
    We talk about it regularly and I never get upset when we have accidents. Good luck, despite all our actions I believe that in their own time they will stop having accidents.



  • This question has been asked numerous times on this page, so there are many more comments in previous posts to read as well. This is what I answered to the same question on 15 May: My 12yr old still has accidents at night. He will grow out of it eventually. Very common for boys to take longer as well. Do not limit drinks, wake him in the middle of the night etc as none of this will help his body learn to wake on it’s own when he feels the need to go. Some kids are very heavy sleepers (I have two) and take longer to be dry overnight. Do not rush him or get frustrated, it will happen eventually.



  • We learnt all the old wives tales like no drinks before bed and waking them to go to the loo does not help. Wetting the bed is to do with a state of sleep. Google the company “a dry bed” it’s run by a nurse who worked at the children’s hospital she’s a working mum and excellent she will get u sorted


  • In tried chiro for 5 weeks twice a week and nothing, except a child who was scared to go as the crack got too much for her! We have had only 3 treatment of Bowen therapy now and have dry nights about 80% of the time, so I think we will have great results when the treatment progresses! And one happy little girl!



  • Have 5 sons and some still wet the bed until 9. It was a problem for sleep overs but we used pull ups or a continence mat under the sheet. Also try not to encourage going to the toilet too often as the bladder needs to be able to hold a reasonable amount.
    I found that once I stopped stressing it went away. :)



  • Can you please pm me Sonia, I’d be interested in some more info about it…



  • This is very common especially in boys. All 3 of my brothers and 2 nephews were all bed wetters up to about 9. It is very embarrassing for them. I feel for your wee man.



  • Still considered medically normal at 6 to wet at night. Drs say increase water consumption throughout day, about 1-1.2 litres from memory, it will strengthen bladder. Stop drinks from about 6pm and toilet before bed. Avoid caffeine eg milo it stimulates the bladder.



  • just check your ‘others’ folder :)



  • I will pm you – I wrote about it for my blog :)



  • There is a place called Gold Coast hypnosis on FB too I noted they deal with bed wetting in kids. I would take my son “but” they won’t do it too young, he’s showing no interest so we are going to an OT next month to see they can help.



  • Wow Sonia, I never even considered bowen therapy, my son will be 8 in August and is still a night time bed wetter, it is really starting to impact on his self esteem. Just out of curiousity how many bowen sessions did it take before you saw results?


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