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How do I save my marriage and try to move past it?

Posted anonymously, 3rd December 2018

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  • The first thing you need is to talk to him about it. I would recommend getting a marriage counsellor involved.

  • Poor thing. I know exactly how you feel!
    I decided to give my hubby a second chance as it was messages and nothing eventuated physically. My husband is an amazing dad, helps with all of the house work and is a great husband (aside from this slip up) he was in am extremely bad place and was also drinking a lot. He has since completely stopped drinking, it has been a year. I would definitely suggest counselling if you want to give it another go. It’s extremely hard to come back from but if you want to make it work you can. Good luck lovely

  • I would be needing to find out how many women? How many times? How long gas he been doing it for? Has it just been purely sexting of has there been physicality? It’s not a good thing to find out. Once you have all the details and still think you want to save your relationship, I would suggest a good counsellor

  • I would be asking why for a start. Need to find out why is he doing this and what is he trying to achieve? I think you need to sit down and nut it out with him and tell him how it made you feel and why is he doing it. I would be very concerned if he is sending nude photos of himself too .This sort of stuff might seem innocent enough but what’s his next move??

  • If you are wanting to move past this and stay with your husband, then you will definitely need counselling together and independently. The loss of trusts will take years to get back if it can at all. Have a really good look at this relationship and decide if it is something that you really want. If this is the only real issue then you may be okay. Unless this issue is dealt with you will probably end up resenting him and not being happy together anyway, Good luck with your choices and future :)

  • I would be so angry. Honestly, I think professional counselling is an essential first step.

  • You need to work out if you will be able to trust him again after this. If you think you will be able to, then maybe some counselling will be helpful to you both. Good luck

  • Thats not a nice thing to discover particularly as it has all been behind your back. You need to confront him and possibly get some sort of mediation if you feel he is not being truthful or you need help to resolve it. it is a form of cheating. its also a question of are you able to forgive and forget and trust he will not do it again to save your marriage? such difficult decisions. good luck through this difficult time.

  • If it’s both what you want, maybe try counseling together, communication

  • You first have to ask your self if you want to work through it. Then sit down and really talk with your husband. Find out the intention behind it.

  • Take a deep breath and decide what you are will to put up with and what you aren’t. Confront him and see if he is willing to go to marriage counseling if he’s not you might need to see a counselor yourself for some real targeted advice. Obviously it depends if he’s having an emotional affair or just sexting for other reasons. Good luck and be kind to yourself.

  • I would confront my husband immediately.

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