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When my son and daughter in law stopped contact with myself and my granddaughters they took my heart. I ask myself every single day how can they cause so much pain to someone who loves their kids xx

Posted by mom241861, 13th July 2018

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  • Bit hard to comment without knowing why they stopped contact. They must ave their reasons, whether they’re valid or not I can’t say. But yep to all below, reach out, open the channels of communication and try to sort something out

  • Yes please reach out, a card for birthdays and Christmas expressing your love will be a great olive branch.

  • I am not sure of your circumstances but I think you need to reach out and express your hurt. You could always write letters to your granddaughters and not post them then hopefully one day you will meet up again in the future and you can give them your letters

  • Have you spoken with them to find out reason for this to see if you can all make amends?

  • I do not know why they did this to you. I have sons one has a longterm partner and dogs too.The other son has a wife with her 3 kids who are family too,They are busy so do not see them a lot, But into my life got young women who are like daughters to me and outings and other things share time you see. My advice is keep busy too send cards when you feel you would like too, Even if no message recieved you are sharing with love not nagging how you feel.Life passes so fast it is true so get some intrests you like to do, which give your mind busyness to.Think loving thoughts and meditate, has made me calmer, lots of meditation on internet, find one you like it may helps you to. All the best do not only focus on wht you have not, rather on what you have got.

  • Nobody cuts somebody out of their life for no reason. I would advise you to do some very deep soul-searching, and instead of blaming your son and daughter-in-law, try to consider what actions *you* have taken to contribute to this situation of no-contact.

    Don’t reach out to the grandkids or go around their parents for contact, don’t impose yourself on them. They might need this time and space to plant the seeds for a healthier relationship with you.

    If you can be honest with yourself and identify areas where you may have also done wrong by them, and are genuinely remorseful, get yourself into some therapy. Take this as an opportunity to genuinely improve yourself as a person. Then, if the time ever comes that your family reaches out to you for contact again, you’ll be able to have a healthy, happy, genuine relationship with them all.

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