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so where do i start i’ve been with my girlfriend for a year now. everything was fine when we first got together fun times and such. but then she got pregnant and everything went downhill. i started getting depressed and really bad anxiety and no emotions and i was taking it out on her. then she left me for 2 weeks and went and said she had sex with one of my old friends then said it was a lie because she wanted to hurt me. but idk if i believe that i just let it go. but everything after the baby our baby is 4 weeks old. she started being really mean to me we have fights a lot she just drew herself away from me. she acts like she hates me won’t even touch me anymore or have sex. but she’s not her self. i’m not mab about the sex thing i get it but it makes me feel like she’s not attractied to me anymore. idk i just want my normal girlfriend back. because she’s really mean and un caring rn


Posted anonymously, 9th February 2019


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  • Maybe some counselling would help


  • Becoming a mother completely changes most women. You are holding, feeding, rocking a tiny human all day everyday and then are supposed to all of a sudden get sexy and want sex? Nup, sorry! The sleep deprevation especially makes you exhausted to the point where you don’t even want to shower let alone be intimate. Give it time and if it doesn’t improve maybe consider counselling?


  • It’s hard that’s for sure- being a mum is a new journey she’s trying to learn as she goes too. When i had my first – i have to admit, all my attention was on my daughter and i pushed my husband to the side unintentionally. Just give it time, and talk it out.


  • I really do hope your relationship is on the mend.


  • Seems like you both have unresolved issues. If you’re both serious about staying together and making a go of things, maybe some relationship counselling might be good. She’s just had a baby, it could be she’s still adjusting to being a mum, that might explain not wanting sex and her being mean.


  • It will take at least six weeks for your girlfriend’s body to recover from giving birth. Also having a newborn is very tiring. You might also need to watch out for signs of post natal depression. Be kind to one another, give her a lot of affection, and a lot of help with the baby. Your whole relationship has just changed – give it time to adjust to a new normal.


  • She probably physically doesn’t want to have sex right now while her body recovers. She might also be feeling insecure about your behaviour before the baby was born. Get her to see someone to talk about it having a baby is a very emotional and often difficult time. Be gentle with her and allow her time to find her feet.


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