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I am a 44 year old single mum. Life hasn’t gone as hoped for, as usual, I guess. I cannot believe that I am turning 45 next year. I am struggling with the fact that I really don’t feel like I have accomplished much in my life. I have no career. I have no partner. I feel lost and tired. Do any of the other mums here have any advice for me as to how I can get my groove back?

Posted by Melanie, 24th October 2015

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  • I agree with previous poster. Reading your question my first thought was you focus on what you don’t have and I think it would be helpful for yourself you focus on what you do have and on what you can.

  • My advice……forget what you don’t have and what you wish you had! Look around and see what you do have, appreciate what’s around you

  • try to say yes to more and try to take more opportunities. maybe travel a little. it is hard when you are on a budget to save money for holidays but try to research cheap options , if you are interested. Maybe try taking a tafe course for something that interests you. why not stop for a coffee while shopping and just take a moment to sit there and enjoy a minute. Good luck!

  • I know how you feel. I’m nearly 49 and I have no career, no job even, no drivers license, no friends, don’t own my own home. I feel like I’ve done nothing, not a good example to my kids etc. Hope you get your funk back

  • I think it’s human to feel the passage of time and have some regrets about how we have led our lives. It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, you could have a partner and a satisfying job and still feel that way. You’ve got a long life ahead of you and you can still achieve anything you want to. If having a career is important to you then think about doing some training or education. It’s not too late, you have another 25 years of work ahead of you! There are positives to having a partner in life for sure, but you can look at it as you get to live your life on your own terms for now and you’re still availabe if you meet someone special. Do things that make you happy. Put yourself first. Make small changes now for the future you want. Never think it’s too late or you’re too old. Easier said then done, I know, but hopefully it’s just a temporary feeling and you will feel happy soon. If it gets too much then see a GP as you might have depression, which can definitely be manged.

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