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This year the local orienteering club has a new location mapped which happens to be a cemetery. They are launching the map on halloween evening with events for individuals and families. However, I’m still trying to get my head around how this will actually feel. Part of me thinks it would be disrespectful to visitors of the cemetery who are mourning loved ones (if there happen to be any there at that time). I’m not sure I would like to come across a load of people jumping over graves, laughing, towing kids around etc. if I was bereaved. While I think there is far more to respect for the dead / and the grieving than just being quiet I can’t decide if this is a ‘no no’ or just some baggage like not talking in a library (which used to be taboo) and in reality any mourners wont mind and the dead can be respected in far deeper ways (like honoring their wishes in life). Any thoughts?

Posted anonymously, 21st October 2020

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  • passing through the cemetary (walking) is ok but running around graves definately not ok.

  • I think this could potentially upset recently bereaved people. I would be more comfortable if they held this sort of thing in the older part of a Cemetary though, one where the graves are too old for there to be recent mourners.

  • Some people would see it that way. I guess it could be if your relative/loved one was in there

  • Personally I don’t think nit is appropriate especially when there will be mourners there visiting loved ones.


  • BAGGAGE. it’s not like they’ll be disturbing the deceased and as far as being disrespectful to anyone mourning a loved one in the cemetery, life goes on for the living and I’m yet to see signs in cemeteries that state, no running, talking, laughing, jumping, having fun etc… Some cemeteries are placed near busy roads, are in flight paths with noise, have ghost tour groups and so on because life goes on. If I had a loved in your cemetery, I wouldn’t find a Halloween activity there disrespectful at all. It’s a public place.

  • yes definitely disrespectful

  • I don’t think it is very respectful to do this. I’m glad you are thinking it through. I know I wouldn’t like it happening where any of my loved ones are buried. I think this is a decision that you will make correctly

  • Your question is an interesting one and good on you for weighing up the pros and cons about this issue. In some countries a cemetery is a place where once a year time is taken to ‘celebrate’ and respect the dead such as ‘Day of the Dead’ in Mexico and Memorial Day in the USA. The graves are cleaned and tended to and loved ones remembered.

  • This is terrible and for the people who think it is fine, would you like people climbing over your child’s grave? I bet you wouldn’t and they might think it’s ok these organisers but I don’t show some respect for the dead. This has really upset me thinking about it and maybe the council where they want to do it will lock it or put a guard to stop them.

  • It’s not CEMETARY. It’s not CEMETRY either.
    It’s CEMETERY.
    And it’s just a place where bones rest underground.
    Run, sit, celebrate life in it.
    There’s nothing after this!

  • I dont really agree with this. It does feel abit disrespectful to me.

  • Our local cemetery often holds big events there but I don’t think this is a good idea…

  • Any grave should be treated with respect whether there are or aren’t other people around in my opinion.

  • At this time does this activity comply with covid rules about numbers regardless of the location? There may also be rules around activities occurring at particular locations. There are multiple layers to this question and culture, background and tradition will also factor on how people feel about this activity.

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