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I’m a full time single mother to two children,5 and 3 and I work 5 days a week with Autistic students. My children barely see their father. We split up 3 1/2 years ago and at first I wanted to be with someone. Now, time has passed I want to be alone and I don’t want a relationship at all. I’ve met nice guys but I just don’t feel anything. I don’t feel like sex or anything like that nor even going out for a girls night. I’m happy to spend all of my time with my children and giving them everything I never had. Men have called me weird because I’ve told them the truth about why I’m not interested and that I must have something against the male race. Help! Is this normal?!

Posted anonymously, 8th March 2014

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  • If you have found happiness that is wonderful and what makes one person happy isn’t necessarily what makes another person happy.

  • I don’t think you’re weird at all. In fact, I applaud you.

  • I don’t think it’s weird. I think you’re amazing! We need more people like you. People who are happy with themselves and don’t need a relationship to prop them up. I’m sure, when the right man comes along, you will know and move into a relationship. For now, you’re happy as you are so don’t stress it, keep being happy

  • Not weird at all !! Focus on what you have and do what you feel for doing. When there is on a certain moment time and space to do more, you’ll develop into that direction.

  • No reason why you can’t be happy exactly as you are. I think I would’ve been better off as a single parent in a lot of ways it’s time consuming having a relationship

  • Of course you are normal! You sound very content and I’m happy for you.

  • I AM! Its ok to be. A contentment with oneself. alotnif people are very unhappy attached. to be ok being alone is a big accomplishment. Embrace it.

  • Sounds normal to me, and I know because that’s me too! I used to feel hollow and lonely without a partner, but after a few relationships that left me broken and wounded, I’m much happier and less stressed being single! Stress makes me ill, and that affects my children. Been a lot of lessons but I learnt that unless it’s perfect, I’m not settling for anything less than what I deserve. Maybe one day, even 20 years from now, I’ll meet someone I’m meant to be with, but for now I’m happy being single. Go you!

  • No not at all. I think it’s wonderful!

  • You are not weird!
    You are a happy, successful, independent Mum!
    Perhaps the men you have met are intimidated by you, or they simply just do not understand.
    You’re happy with your career & home life & for some people who are unsettled & unhappy with theirs it is to hard to accept someone else should be.
    It is stereotypical to think that single Mums are struggling & depressed.
    Don’t doubt yourself, your a role model for single Mums who have had drummed into their heads they will never achieve anything, you’re living proof they can!

  • Good reading the comments and interest!

  • I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this. It sounds like you’re a devoted mum!

  • As long as you are not depressed there is nothing wrong with this. Independent is the word and you go for it girl!

  • No, Not at all, I was a single mum working full time with 3 preschool children, I stayed single for about 10 years, I went out with friends but most of the time if I wanted to go somewhere it was a child related activity anyway so I went with my children, I had no need for a male in my life, they just complicate things, I needed to devote my time to working to pay for my home and raise my children, I was very successful at work and won a 2 week holiday on the gold coast for the 4 of us, including airfares, (had a choice, probably could have gone to Europe for the same cost, but the theme parks won) I earnt a good income and my children wanted for nothing, I did eventually meet a lovely man who is 22 years older than me, he had children a couple of years older than mine and we maintained 2 homes for many years, then we moved with my work and purchased a home together and had 5 teenagers, thank goodness they have grown now and we did actually marry once they were all adults, I think that far to much emphasise is put on being a couple, you need to be happy and if that is with your children without a partner then so be it, your children come first. and if you are happy they will be as well.

  • If you’re happy, I think it’s normal. You may find you feel different in future; right now, just enjoy your contentment. And maybe make a little bit of effort to make sure you do keep up some contact with your female friends, as sooner or later you will need/want some social interaction again.

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