Hi everyone i have a dilemma. My four year old girl has no problem going toilet for wees but constantly does poos in her nickers. I am not sure but i think it’s on purpose as when asked why she does a silly face when saying she doesn’t know and when i say it’s yuk and that she needs to use the toilet she thinks it’s funny. Thing is she has in the past done poos on the toilet. I have even said she will get a lolly every time she does poos on the toilet (she loves lollies) but it hasn’t worked. When does it become naughty behaviour that should be punished for? Is my 4 year old pooing her pants on purpose?

Posted by Laura 27.12.2012

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  • There are really interesting comments on this!

  • It sounds a bit like Encopresis, she may not be being naughty but in fact has lost control of her bowel function.

  • My daughter did the same thing and we worked out that it was because my son was just born and she was looking for some attention – in directly.

  • Find something else to take away from her a toy or make her sit in a cnr for 4 mins.

  • Usually when young children regress it is due to a stresser….such as changes in her routine or life in general….has she started preschool or school? Many small events are actually huge events for young children. I would also seek advice of the GP and go from there, if problem persists a paediatrician may help to find out the underlining issue, all the best!

  • Hope this was just a phase for you.

  • Time for a visit to the doctor I think.

  • I hope that its sorted now

  • At age two they understand they have Done a poo in their nappy . . Age 4 is misbehaving I think.

  • Hope you managed to get it sorted out. My girl went through a stage when she was 3, where she would hide in her room or under the table to poo, I just kept telling her every time that she needs to do it in the toilet, and she eventually got there. Sometimes things can take a bit of time, but if you’re worried get her checked

  • I would get her checked out and I don’t think at any stage punishment and toilet training should be combined

  • Does she feel embarrassed by it at all?

  • You probably need to make sure that she does in fact have control or not. It might be worth checking out as some problems can cause this.

  • It could very possibly be an attention thing? Try a rewards chart?

  • Get her checked out may be constipated (other poo can come out round blockage) or have urgency issues

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