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“Is it just post pregnancy hormones? Firstly I love my husband and our 2 children but I have noticed in the last 5 weeks (since giving birth) that I’m starting to feel quite ill and at times think about leaving hubby and sometimes our oldest with him (we have a very loving home) I just don’t know what’s going on bub also has reflux so he takes up a lot of time I also feel the need to go off at family members mainly his for not even being bothered in seeing the new addition to our family when I have always offered help it an ear. So my question is Is it normal to feel like this ie normal post bub hormones or should I see my doctor” Is this a normal post pregnancy feeling?

Posted by anon, 04/05/13

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  • I think you should take a visit to your GP and just have a chat. xx

  • Baby &family takes time to adjust .Reflux is awful &painful for bubs .Best thing chat to Chemist they are full of info ,last resort go see Drs .

  • I agree with the other comments and think you need to let your GP know how you feel.

  • I think you need to tell your GP how you’re feeling, so they can sort out the best way to help you.

  • I really think you need to talk to a health professional.

  • I think you need to speak to a professional about your feelings, they will help you sort through them and put them all into perspective

  • I think you’re just tired, no wonder you are feeling this way. It is OK to admit your damn well tired and need a rest, you can even go to hospital for a few days respite,( you take your baby) I think you may need it.

  • If you treat the reflux properly you will solve most of the problem, I suspect. Find people who have had reflux babies (real ones! Not ones that burped wrong once!) and talk to them. I went through these feelings with my reflux baby. All babies are hard work but only mums who have been thru what you are will ever truly understand. If you are in Auckland I recommend dr Allen Liang to diagnose and treat. There’s a great support organization called spilt milk (?) and spend every minute you can sleeping. I have a feeling women start resenting others because you can’t resent your poor wee baby….but the experts know more than me. Seek them out!

  • Get yourself onto the Happy Pills! Your Dr will probably prescribe them for you; you don’t need to stay on them forever, just until your hormones sort themselves out. Some women think once they start anti-depressants, that they have to take them always, but not so. I only needed them for about 3 months after my 2nd baby, and I felt the same way you have described. A week after I started the Happy Pills, everything was fine and I felt “normal” again. Don’t try and soldier on! Good luck.

  • I felt like that after having my 3rd 11 weeks ago in regards to family it’s like they’re not interested like omg another one and some friends as well in the end I’ve told myself who cares they’re missing out on the new baby joys not, I also felt my husband and eldest son who’s 6 a little disinterested but as time goes now that she’s becoming less boring smiles coos and can stay awake a little longer they are showing more interest in my experience I guess most males enjoy older babies because there is more they can do with or for them my husband always baths our babies right from when they are born sometimes I think men feel just as emotional as us woman about our new babies they just won’t say so my cousins husband actually had PND sooo yea maybe talk with him about how you feel and get him to share how he feels

  • I agree with tania, I wouldn’t like to describe this as normal feelings but rather extremely common. I had PND with my first and if you are still feeling down after the first week or two then I would encourage you to seek some help. PND is nothing to be afraid of or ashamed of, mine went undiagnosed for 18 months and I don’t recommend that path to anyone. Have a chat to hubby and try explain how you are feeling, the best thing I did was get counselling, you will be able to be referred by your GP. I went out for long walks and also went to a herbalist and got a great potion to help balance out how I’m feeling. As overwhelming as it all sounds it is so much better to do something early on. I put my husband through hell….. I’m coming up due with number two and can see the odd sign of not coping or getting frustrated sneaking in, but I know the signs and can keep it in check. I also have a great support group of people around that I can call on should things go pear shaped again….. Being a mum is the hardest thing I have ever done, but extremely rewarding! Guidance through these early days is so important and hang in there! If you also feel like you aren’t getting the support from the person you go to, if you feel you can seek help, then go to someone else until you feel completely supported. Feel free to PM me too if you do need someone to chat to. X

  • I felt like this after my third (now 4 months), I was so exhausted and my eldest (3.5 years) was a nightmare going through jealousy issues etc, I felt terrible the whole time feeling the way I did and not knowing what to do about it and as much as I loved my 3rd bub and regretted having her. I was about to go to doctor about it but it passed after a few weeks thankfully. But I would suggest finding someone to talk to about it. As for visitors, they are seriously just more work for you, I know it’s hard to have a refluxy baby but really there’s not much visitors can do to help you, maybe ask your friends to make a few meals so that you have one less think to deal with.

  • After the birth women go through hormonal storm for several months. It is quite normal to have huge mood swings, feeling high, feeling very low. Exhaustion, lack of sleep can make us feel very low. I suggest not to attach to these thoughts of feeling. There are 1000s thoughts going through our mind in every minutes, they are nothing more than thoughts and have no meaning. Just accept these thoughts and do not dwell on them. It doesn’t mean you are going to leave you husband or your kid. Most importantly get as much rest as possible, sleep, good food, veggies, fruit, fresh air and sun. Get out of the house even if it means sitting in the sun for 10 min. You just need rest and possibly time without the baby even 30 min. So gift yourself this opportunity. Please reach to me if you need help. Ivetta@ivettakleiman.com.au

  • Definitely see a doctor! Its normal to feel a little overwhelmed but definitely not normal to have those feelings…. You may need some help! :) Stay strong!!

  • Hmmm certainly didnt happen to me, people are saying its normal but I think maybe you should consult your doctor. Best of everything xx

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