85 Answers

“Hi MoMs, I wonder if you could ask your mums if they’ve ever experienced their kids getting quite upset by one set of grandparents visiting and not the one they were hoping for. This happened over the weekend and I had a really hard time getting them to be nice! Luckily I had the Easter Bunny as a bribe. Do you have any ideas on what to do to make this better for next time? It almost got really embarrassing! Thanks so much.” Do your kids like one Grandparent better then another?

Posted by Anon, 2/04/13

Want more real mum questions sent to you?

You'll need to check this email to complete your signup.
Ask your question
  • I think kids are naturally with preferences. My daughter prefers me than my husband. She prefers nana rather than grandpa.

    And you were right to have some bribes. Doesn’t have to be big expensive toys, but maybe some arts and crafts they can spend time doing that the other one “cannot” do. Just generally spending more time, I guess. But that’s just my opinion. =) hope it gets better.

  • My kids see my MIL all the time. Hardly see my parents as they live in another state. Unfortunately, they grew up loving MIL and not wanting to know my parents :(

  • Tough one! Have you asked your kids what it is about the different grandparents that makes one lot seem better/worse? Might be something you didn’t realise.

  • I was the exact same as a child. For a very good reason.
    i dont even speak to my grandparents that i didnt like as a child. Sit down and ask them why they have a reason why and you just need to figure out what.
    kids dont hate for no reason.

  • this one is tricky, but kids are kids have to admit there are some rellies i like better than others

  • How is it going now?

  • Hope you have found something of use here.

  • My kids do have a preference at the moment, which is probably because they see one set more often than they see the other.

  • Ask your kids why they prefer one set of Grandparents over the other grandparents and listen to there answer and take it from there.

  • kids will always have preferences , as they grow older things will get better

  • Is one more fun than the other!?

  • My kids have favourite grandparent. I think it’s normal, not nice for the grandparents who are not the favourite, but I don’t think there is anything you can do about except your kids spending extra time them.

  • Most definitely. They like the one that gives them the most

  • Definitely think its normal, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. As they get older they’ll start to understand that people are different, just teach them to accept people for who they are and treat everybody equally. Its ok to have favourite I think, so log as they’re respectable to everyone

  • My daughter does to. I wouldn’t worry.

Post you answer
Like Facebook page

LIKE MoM on Facebook

What is your answer to that question?
Would you like to include a photo?
No picture uploaded yet.
Please wait to see your image preview here before hitting the submit button.
Your MoM account

Lost your password?

Enter your email and a password below to post your answer and join MoM:

↥ Back to top

Thanks For Your Star Rating!

Would you like to add a written rating or just a star rating?

Write A Rating Just A Star Rating