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What do I do with kids picking on my son about his father being deceased. The school won’t do anything and the department off education refuse to do anything. The next school that is closest is an hour walk. Would love some advice.

Posted by anon, 15/11/13

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  • Oh you should so insist that school do something about this. That’s just outrageous. Badger them until they take action.

  • It’s been a while since this question was posted, I hope your son is okay.

  • Just cruel. I can’t believe the department won’t do anything. I’d write to the Minister, and threaten to go to the media. Maybe seek legal advice.

  • I am so sorry to hear that you are not getting support. Your poor son.. that is horrible for his to have to deal with (both the death of a parent and being teased).. I would see a counselor for support and coping strategies if it is not possible for you to move schools

  • Wow that is absolutely horrid and needs to be taken further. The oard of education as such!

  • It is a form of bullying & by law the school has to address it, changing school might help but it won’t teach yr son how to deal with bullies. My eldest son was bullied badly in preschool & school, we changed schools after 18 months of it hoping it would fix it but it didn’t. A nasty divorce didn’t help his confidence either. I worked on building up his self confidence, martial arts defence classes helped enormously not only teaching how to defend but also how to deal with those who bully to make themselves feel better. I also encouraged him to defend himself physically but got the reply “But I will get in trouble if I hit back” I told him that he has the right to defend himself & if that meant hitting back then I would deal with the school afterwards. It took ages for him to become confident enough to stand up to the bullies & he actually punched one of them in nose, no complaints were made about it & the bullies left him alone afterwards. He went on the become an advocate for others around him who were victims & showed them they can stand up to them. My younger son was also being bullied & the school was struggling to work with the kid doing it, in the end my son kicked him so hard that the kid never bullied anyone again. His teachers actually thanked my son for stepping in to protect his peers against this kid as they were ready to expel him. Private school as well so a lot more help & interaction from the teachers & headmaster. Same thing happened to me all through school & I never hit back until year 9 when someone pushed my buttons once too many times & I lashed out. Never got bullied again because I was no longer easy prey. If children become an easy target then work on changing that status so they have the confidence needed to deal with those who hate themselves enough to take it out on others around them, there is no excuse for it & the school should be doing something about it. Last resort is take it to the local newspaper that the school is not addressing a bullying issue which is psychologically hurting yr son. They can do an article without mentioning yr son’s name, trust me public pressure helps if nothing else does.

  • This is so horrible. It’s disgusting that the school won’t do anything about it. I would speak to the education department.

  • there are some good comments here

  • let the teacher know….. kids are horrible some times . . …

  • Hope some of the advice below has helped

  • I can’t believe how some kids are!!!!

  • I am shocked that they are teasing him about this – what is wrong with kids these days? Don’t their parents try to teach empathy? Os there a school counselor that can help? Have you spoken to the principal about the problem?

  • this is awful,what is wrong with kids these days.i think the most important thing here is your sons well being,making sure he is coping with this nonsense.Is there a counselor at school or somewhere you can speak with to get extra support.

  • How extremely heartbreaking I have no advice but just hope you find a solution

  • Its a really sad world, I hope you find an answer to this

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