I hope 6 months has made a big difference for you. When our Miss 3 has days like this, we try turning everything in to a game like “Who can find the most red blocks for the dish”. Another tactic is “Once we put this game away (or you put this in the bin/ other chore), we can find the play dough/bubbles/kick the ball/other fun game of their choice”. Another one is “You can’t put those books on the shelf, you’re too little”, to which I’m told “Yes I am Mummy, watch me”. (I’m careful with this one though. It works wonders with my little one because she sees it as a game and a challenge, and not as demoralising or babying or limiting. We tell her so often she is clever and a big girl and smart, and she copies our older children all the time. For this tactic, we started with “No, you don’t like ice cream”, to which we were howled down with “yes I do”, “no you can’t like ice cream only big girls like ice cream. Are you a big girl?”. “Yes I’m a big girl. I do like ice cream” and yes she got a little bit. We then moved to other things we knew how she would react – you can’t carry that to the bathroom, it’s too heavy for you. You can’t tickle Mummy, don’t you tickle Mummy, no, no, laugh, laugh, laugh, play game. Best of luck.
Published 5th April 2020