I am 30 weeks pregnant and I’m still a bit concerned who the dad could be – my due date doesn’t match up to my LMP and I slept with two people over the two week period – My LMP was on the 20th of April I had intercourse on the 28th of April and then again on the 11th-12th of May. My due date is the 31st January. I don’t want know negative comments I just want to see what peoples opinion is on who might be the father.

Posted by anon, 05/12/13

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  • The only way to 100% sure would be DNA testing. Best to know for sure than just by guessing through dates. They (the potential fathers) would want to know to, so I am sure neither would disagree on the DNA testing. Try talking to them now so you can have it all in place to be done when bub is here. You don’t want to have bub with the worry hanging over your head, you should enjoy this moment!! Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out for you and enjoy the arrival of your little bundle. Sending blessings your way :-)

  • I know hypocrite aren’t I? Difference being I wouldn’t judge them on their personal choices or actions, nor the outcomes from said actions.

  • I would tend to think the later date of conception would be the one as on average we ovulate around 14days after our period and can conceive only after the egg is released at that point (usually have a couple of very fertile days).

  • Yeah I would say it was about the 11/12 may. To work it out yourself count 38 weeks backwards from edd. The doctors count the 40 weeks from the first day of your period. Which doesn’t work properly for people like me who have irregular periods!

  • I’d hazard a guess to say that the likely contestant is the 11/12 May guy. But only a test would tell for sure.

  • You must be going through hell OP! I really feel for you in your situation :( best thing to do is take a deep breath, and fess up to both guys in the hopes they are reasonable about the situation, and get a paternity test sorted out. No judgement here, we are all human and make mistakes! You are one strong woman to continue with the pregnancy and must have a lot of love inside you to choose to keep bub, they will be very loved no matter what!
    For all you judgemental people out there, you don’t hear to be married to have a baby, or in a relationship. A bub will happen when the time is right and until you know the full story, shut your yaps!

  • make sure they understand the situation because you will regret it later and its better to stir up a little now than when bub is here..good luck

  • I don’t know who my father is and do not judge my family for it. I have the choice of 3. The man that mum says is my father denies that I am his but is happy for me to spend $500 to find out. I rather not know if he is or not. My mother did an amazing job of raising me. What ever the outcome make sure your gem can rely on you as your the one that’s going to be there for him/her.

  • Girl or boy? If girl I would say the earlier one as girl sperm last longer inutero. Otherwise perhaps the later one :) but get a paternity test once out

  • Have a paternity test that will give u the answer u need good luck

  • Paternity test. No judgement here its your life. I just would have gone off to the drs and found out how I could find this out. Not left this to public discussion.

  • Ask your doctor but I reckon it’s the 28th. That’s how my dates would have worked. Good luck with Bub. Enjoy them no matter what!

  • Ignore the bad/negative comments. People do not know the circumstances, so don’t let it get you, especially during this already highly emotional and stressful time. Hopefully both men are supporting you! I would ask your doctor about what you can do to work out paternity. Good luck and enjoy this time

  • Hun hope it all works out*

  • But of i go by your due date you concived around the 10th of may so guy number two ! Good luck

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