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My daughter is almost 4 and climbs into our bed from 3 up to 10 times a night, so no one is sleeping well and we are about to have our 2nd child! Can anyone help?

Posted by fnt51, 9th April 2016

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  • I agree she might be picking up on the upcoming changes. You could offer her an alternative by putting a small mattress on the floor where she can sleep when she comes into your room, then she’s still nearby you but everyone can sleep

  • Can you just let her stay? All my kids went through a brief phase like this – but once we let them stay, it seemed to reduce their need for it and they gave it up after just a couple of months. Admittedly, I kinda enjoyed the cuddles.

  • You can get a special clock you can set that the face of it is dark blue at night with stars, slowly changed to bright yellow in the morning until it is time to wake up and it’s Ok to get up. I can’t remember all the details but I know a friend used one for their daughter, then their sun. It is electric……You should put your child back to bed provided you hear footsteps or feel movement on your bed. My friend’s little boy started climbing up the foot of the bed and sleeping on that end of the bed. They usually didn’t realise he was there until they woke up in the morning. He was lucky he didn’t end up on the floor as his Mum is tall and had she stretched her legs out in her sleep he might have got pushed off. He went through a stage at about 3 y.o. when her woke up crying and went in to his parents. They spoke to their Dr. and the Registered Nurse and their local Medical Centre. Apparently it can be common for a late 2 – early 3 year old because at that age they develop a very strong sense of imagination and sometimes have what is known as “night terrors” or what we call nightmares. See if you child can tell you what he/she was thinking about before getting up, when you “go back to bed” routine. In the morning your child might be able to remember and some re-assurance that everything is OK could be helpful. After awhile your child may have nightmares or ordinary dreams and tell you about them in the morning without you even knowing there has been a wake up during the night.

  • She may be picking up on the changes that are about to happen. Set the scene before bedtime, get her a night light if not already and maybe a new special cuddle toy who she needs to look after in the bed at night time. If she comes out still, you may just have to be persistent in putting her back to bed.

  • Be strong mumma! As hard as it is, you need to show her who is boss! we did a rewards system for the nights he slept in his own bed and also got some new funky bedding he really loved and that helped!

  • Hi we had that with our first child. For us, consistency was key. So every time she came down the hallway, we’d stop her as soon as we realised she was up, turned her around and walked her back to bed with minimal talking, minimal eye contact and minimal fuss. No hugs or kisses and no anger. I still remember her falling asleep standing next to my bed one night because I ignored her… she was sucking her thumb LOL.

  • maybe she is feeling a little unsettled with the arrival of the new baby coming. But I do think that you have to be persistent in taking her back to bed or you will all be exhausted.
    Have you tried star charts, night lights, special teddy etc to help her feel comfortable and safe?

  • You could buy her a little dreamcatcher or even make one with her and that may give her some comfort of being in her own bed.

  • I’ve gone through this too.?Speak to maternal child health nurse abd they may recommend sleep school or consultant. The key is no matter how tired you are, you or your partner need to take her back to her bed.

  • Great to read you may have resolved this problem. That’s what I love about this site, quick helpful replies, with no judgement

  • Thank you. We have a night light in her room already but gave her a small lamp that she can turn on/off that is really faint. It seems to be helping. We also started telling her firmly to go back into her bed and she can come cuddle with us when it’s wake up time in the morning. Last night she only came in once so I’m excited to see if this is going to help create a new routine! Thank you ladies!

  • Thanx for asking this question as I have the same problem at the moment/ and it’s not fun :-(

  • We had that with our second child. We did put a night light in her room. But also we took her back to her own room each time for about a week. Then my hubby would roll over to her and say go back to bed firmly and she would. Sometimes she would whine doing it. But she did go. I found it harder. So glad that my hubby could do it. It hurt my heart, but in the long run it worked out well.

  • Is there a night light on in kids room just a really faint one, WE have a moon in my room (in the kids rooms) it lets of a pale blue glow and is battry run and turns on when its dark and turns off when a light is on or the blinds are open and i only change the battreys about every month) my kids at times have also jumped in our beds but as soon as they had a 5 minute cuddle and are relaxed we have made a thing of putting them back into their bed.. At first no one will get any sleep due to the little one getting upset but they will soon get the message after a week or so.. Goodluck..

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