Maybe this isn’t the place for this question but I have a heavy heart and need reassurance that my feelings are valid.
I’m going on 17 yrs with my hubby. He’s 54, I’m 33 year old. We met when I was 17, we’ve had a healthy good relationship, the only thing causing conflict is his wandering eye. I understand there is many attractive people out there, that looking isn’t the worst thing but his eyes usually go to their ????, and lingered there til’ I can’t ignore it.
He doesn’t discriminate with age, she could be 45 or 15, if it looks good he’s going to look. I find it disrespectful, he agrees it is but it’s a habit he keeps going back to. The whole teen thing makes me see him in a different light, we have an 11 year old who will soon be going to middle and high school so I can’t help but wonder how many more issues will arise from it.
My self esteem isn’t the best, he’s had ED since I met him, combine that with needing to satisfy his visual needs every-time we are in public, it has left me feeling not good enough physically. Should I throw away 17 yrs with him because of this? I wish he would only look pretty faces but its always the body specifically the ????.
He says he doesn’t notice the age, well duh you aren’t looking at their faces???? I feel uncomfortable going out with him, always paranoid of when I’ll notice it, how it will make me feel. It’s becoming very detrimental to my mental health.
Recently we had a trip to Universal, we had not taken a vacation in eight years, and there I saw him look more than ever, it was a sad reminder that even on vacation I can’t relax or feel good about myself. Are all men like this? Are my expectations of simply not doing that when I’m right by him too much? And I’m 22 yrs younger than him which seems so ironic.
Posted anonymously, 14th February 2022