My baby is now 13 weeks and was born 7 weeks premature. Whenever we are at family events my husbands family takes our baby away from us demanding a cuddle. For instance at his baptism I handed him to someone in my family so I could prepare a bottle then someone from my husbands family grabbed him off my family member and then I did not see him for the rest of the afternoon. He was passed around to every single person there. I guess my question is am I selfish for not wanting them to do this. I am all for them being involved and I don’t mind them holding him however they come and just take him off me, I feel like they should wait until I offer for them to hold him, I also don’t like one person takes him and then they pass him to the next person who passes him to the next person like a football, I would like to be the one to pass him to someone then they give him back for me to decide if I want somone else holding him. We had asked that no one holds him who didn’t have their whopping cough vaccinations however he was passed around to lots of people without them. I barely got to see my son at his baptism celebration because someone took him off me and took him to every person in the room. Even people we didn’t want holding him. I was burping him at another family event and my husband grandma said I can do that I said no it’s okay and she said no I can do it and stood behind me waiting and made me feel really uncomfortable, I just feel like I am the one who has to go home and deal with him if he gets sick or I want him to be familiar with me burping and feeding him. But they make me feel so bad. I’m not sure if this is in the right category but it just makes me feel so bad about myself.
Posted by mom481395, 20th September 2021