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My eldest son, who is nearly 11, gets angry ALL the time. And when he does he doesn’t calm down for a very long time and tells me he can’t control his anger. I am worried that one day this anger is going to take over and he is going to regret what he does in anger and he may end up in trouble or worse….in Jail.

Posted anonymously, 25th September 2014

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  • My son was the same. I thought he would grow out if it, but he didn’t. He’s nearly 30 now and has recently started seeing a therapist about it. So I should have got him help years ago and not just fobbed it off as a phase he will grow out of

  • I would start with an appointment with your GP. See what they suggest. Good for you for seeking help

  • I’d go for professional help with this. There is teenage moodiness and there is not coping and it sounds like he’s not sure how to handle the emotions he’s having. Take him to your doctor and go from there.

  • Take him for an all over health assessment, and maybe ask about play therapy or something similar.

  • You need to help him arm himself with tactics to help manage his emotions before puberty sets in, get him to recognise when he is feeling angry or frustrated and understand why, encourage him to take himself away and ‘do’ something to get his mind off the problem such as riding his bike or playing some basketball.

  • check out the bio balance website to find a biomed practitioner who specialises in Pyrolles (pyroluria/kryptopyroles). Could be as simple as him having a mineral imbalance – high copper/low zinc can make boys very angry indeed.
    And/or check out http://www.fedup.com Amines in food often cause anger issues.

  • First see a dietician to see if he is having any allergic reactions to food of some sort (yes it can happen) and secondly make sure he participates in alot of sport and regular activities. Wouldn’t hurt for him to speak to someone unrelated like a counsellor as well. They really do help and speaking to a stranger can sometimes be more effective than speaking to family. I hope this helps. I wish you all the very best

  • I have the same probkem nit woth a 10 yr old we have been referred to a childs specialist for this area. He went ok for awhioe but stopped due to he was already booked out. But has given some great advise and ideas. We find if he is fo angry he needs to walk outside find a “quiter place activity” until he can calm down. Siunds easy but not when hes in the car but I just ask him to closes hes eyes take a breath and count to 25.

  • my son is 11 also and we have the same problem it just about sends me around the twist trying to get him to snap out of it

  • Doctor and maybe a referral is my advice too. Sending special wishes to both you and your son and praying all will be fine.

  • Take him to your GP and get a referral to a child psychologist. Medicare should cover all or almost all costs. Its very important to address this problem without delay to help him avoid serious problems and trouble as he grows into adulthood. I think when a child tells you they need help, they really do and they will have thought about it on their own for a while. Take him seriously and get him the help he needs. I wish him all the best.

  • Thankyou so much I will take my son to the doctor just to be safe but I’m hoping it’s just something he will grow out of rather than me just medicating him….fingers crossed.

  • Oh yes this is my 8 year old. I’m at a loss.
    And check this out http://creativewithkids.com/parenting-an-angry-child/

  • There could be many reasons why your son is angry, taking him a long time to calm down. Have you spoken to a Doctor yet?

  • Has he been diagnosed with anything?
    Medication can sometimes control anger, my nephew is on medication because of his anger, sometimes it does not work as last week he nearly broke a teachers hand, but I’ve had him for a week so far and only 2 episodes which were very mild due to the medication, he also has been diagnosed with A.D.D

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