Hello!

my 9yr old son is a lovely gentleman but im at lost what I should do. ive got him changed to a new smaller school this year as he loves it. he has separation anxiety, low selfesteem and confidence level is low. my 7yr old daughter picks on him all the time as she knows shes brighter than him and can do better. only one thing that my son is good at is his ipad. as much as I dislike ipad and wii u which he has, he does have limit time only on fri sat and sun. I try to let my son be open with me and his father but he bottles things up really well. I know and can see my sons body language if something troubles him. he has finally admitted that my deafness is an embarrassment for him at school therefore I don’t come to class but my son is happy to bring his friends to me outside of his classroom. he tries his best but normally does it at the wrong time and place therefore he doesn’t get praised. I don’t know what else to make him feel included as its also him that prefers to be on the ipad or wii u as its like hes in his own planet without getting into trouble.
what should I do? hes not as close to his father but comes to me when his moods are right to talk to me about anything that may be troubling him. it turns out he tells his sister what may be troubling him so therefore his sister does the talking then I do the figuring out what to do plan. I do tend to yell at him a lot but that after the 3rd time ive asked him. is he just a boy with sensitive feelings/emotions or should there be something I should do to help with his self esteem/confidence?


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  • I hope things have improved for your son. Any updates?


  • I see this is an old question and hope things have improved !
    In situations like this I would make sure I would daily a one-on-one activity with him; this could be a jog together, an evening walk or walking the dog, this could be cooking together or a game of table tennis, kick a ball or whatever he would like to do.
    I would also ask if he would like to have his friends over and do something nice together.
    I would also look if I could enroll him to a groups program which could build his self-esteem, something like ninja warrior for kids or play warrior.
    When problems persist I would consider to seek counseling or play therapy for him.


  • How did things turn out?


  • This post is from 2015, how did everything go with this lady? is she ok?


  • Have you checked whether he has a hearing loss himself?


  • why don’t you take him somewhere special and spend one on one time with him and have a chat. give him priority for a day. it will help reinforce the bond


  • A sport or some kind of group activity, he should sign up for one to help with his self esteem issues


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