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What do I do? My tween has ADHD. She still can’t do her own shoe laces, make her bed, make breakfast or anything really. I have a 4yr old that does a whole lot more though I don’t let her know I know that as I don’t want to break the fantastic spirit she has & I feel she is an indigo child. Please help as she cries when I take her to school clinging still at me & needs light on all night as well as not hygienic enough as in wiping when using bathroom or washing hands. I also brush her teeth & put her clothes away. She is in year 5 at school & it scares me to think high school is around the corner . Help any suggestions please.


Posted by amberohlson, 21st February 2014


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  • Who has diagnosed your daughter ? With a diagnosis you should be able to get more help. I would go to my local Gp and ask for more help, or when it\’s a pediatrician or psychiatrist who diagnosed ask a referral from them. I would ask in specific for an OT specialised in sensory processing difficulties and emotion regulation.
    A classmate of my daughter has ADHD and got access to NDIS funding. Get specialist behind you to apply for NDIS !


  • To be perfectly honest that sounds more like Sensory Processing Disorder associated with autism, rather than ADHD. I have a son with all 3 conditions. An Occupational Therapist may help with fine motor skills, helping with shoe laces.


  • Look into the fedup diet, that can really help.


  • See a GP


  • I would be trying to spend more time and teaching her these things, I don’t know much about it at all


  • Routine and structure is the key to helping kids with processing problems. Eventually tasks will become second nature and they will not have to focus so hard.


  • hope it all going good


  • there are some good comments here


  • i hope all is well


  • You really need to engage your local support services to find out how you can get help.


  • Also check out the possibility of Asperger syndrome –

    What is Asperger’s Syndrome?

    Children with Asperger’s syndrome have the following characteristics:

    Delayed social maturity and social reasoning.
    Difficulty making friends and often teased by other children.
    Difficulty with the communication and control of emotions.
    Unusual language abilities that include advanced vocabulary and syntax but delayed conversation skills, unusual prosody and a tendency to be pedantic.
    A fascination with a topic that is unusual in intensity or focus.
    An unusual profile of learning abilities.
    A need for assistance with some self-help and organizational skills.
    Clumsiness in terms of gait and coordination.
    Sensitivity to specific sounds, aromas, textures or touch.


  • Goodluck with your little one and the hurdles you will be overcoming


  • I recently saw a doco about ADHD and my heart goes out to you! Stay strong, keep on asking for help from professionals and don’t stop until you get answers and help. Also remember to look after yourself. Good luck!


  • are you sure its just ADHD? Maybe you need a paediatrician to reassess. Some of the behaviour sounds anxiety based to me


  • Only thing I can think of is routine which is demonstrated by you first. So that she xcan observe and follow.


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