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My mother-in-law is a seamstress. This year instead of buying ready made matching family pyjamas, my husband and I decided to ask his mother if she could make them.

He spoke to her and she told him how much it would cost for her to do it and how many meters of fabric he would need to buy as well as all the other bits and pieces that she would require.

The following day after spending a small fortune on the materials, my husband called his mother to ask her if he could drop it all off to her.

She let him know that she had changed her mind!!!


It’s understandable, people do have a change of heart, HOWEVER, it would have been nice if she had let him know BEFORE we blew all that money on materials.

I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I am absolutely enraged!!! This woman makes her other grandchildren clothing CONSTANTLY for FREE- she’s made approximately FIVE pieces of clothing for my children over a ten year period- all thanks to the offcuts of her customer’s fabrics.

How could she do this to us… technically we were paying customers too- and she wouldn’t dare do this to other clients, so why do it to us.

I’d LOVE a tactful way of letting her know how I feel? Is it even worth it?

Either way I’m not going to get her to make them now even if she changes her mind again- so I’m unsure if it’s worth the time expressing how devastating what she did is, both financially as well as emotionally.

In reality this was a blessing in disguise because I was able to find someone who can make them for less- but the downside is that I could have still bought ready made pyjamas from Peter Alexander cheaper than this whole exercise.

I just want to know what changed my mother-in-law’s mind in the space of less than a day… I want her to know that it doesn’t feel right (to me)- but at the same time I don’t want to start a war over this.

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated xx

Posted by someonesmother, 20th November 2020

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  • I would certainly show my disappointment by saying “mum, now we asked you if you want to do this and you said yes, we bought all the stuff and it was quite pricey and now you say no ? how disappointing !” and maybe add that it hurts

  • If anyone should say anything it should be her son not you as it could turn real nasty, and I know your upset at how it’s one sided with her making clothes for the other grandchildren. But again her son should be the one to say to her why she doesn’t do it for his kids. She can change her mind on what she wants but seems quite mean after he went and bought everything and he should of told her but you’ve found someone cheaper to make them so be happy and you could all dress up in them to stick it to her!!

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