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Would you feel okay about your friend saying they don’t want to take their newborn to your house-party because it’s flu season?


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  • Yes.

    People labeled me anti social when my child was at least 6 mons old. I know it may sound over protective but it’s not your friends who will look after the sick new born and it’s not them who will worry all night.

    If you dont feel comfy going out with a new born, stay home or if you can manage, get a sitter. But even for myself I am afraid of catching something. If going out is umavoidable to go out, I usually wash my hands rigorously when I get home, change clothes and mouth wash gargle. =)


  • Yep, I would totally understand the parent of a newborn wanting to avoid places the flu virus would be prevalent. It’s a terrible thing to catch, let alone for a newborn, could kill them


  • Some
    Parents are a little overprotective. I wouldn’t be offended though


  • I wouldn’t put a baby’s health / life at risk to go to a party. It is risky enough having to take them into any public places including Medical Centres….or other peoples houses. You need to take in to consideration babies under 3 months old have almost no immunity. A person is infectious before they start to feel the symptoms. Also are others going to stay away if they know they have a cold etc.? A high temperature in a newborn can sometimes trigger convulsions. A newborn I know had to be rushed to hospital for that reason. Somebody who had visited their house had a cold and said it was hayfever, then admitted afterwards that h knew he had a cold. He never thought about the baby catching it.


  • i would definitely feel okay about that and i’d applaud her for being a good mum. youd be surprised how many inconsiderate people go out in public while they are as a dog and dont take precautions to keep their germs to themselves


  • I think she is a smart cookie to do this as a new born baby has little or no resistance to such viruses. I have been reading about how grand parents are giving some babies whooping cough as the grand parents immunisations have long ago lost there effect. Personally I would rather be safe than sorry.


  • Definitely. Their immune systems are so fragile. I wouldn’t want to risk my newbie at a party during flu season.


  • Yes as they are more sensitive to picking up viruses because their immuse system. It’s best to be safe then sorry.


  • Yes no issues with this. The last thing you want is your newborn coming down with the flu. It’s not only the flu but how many adults have had their whooping cough booster?


  • Absolutely. I kept both my kids away from groups of people (at any time of the year) during their first 3 months of life.

    Sickness in the first 3 months can be devastating – so you mind of weigh up whether 2 hours at a party or 2 weeks caring for a sick baby (and possibly worse) is worth it.


  • Yes, that would be ok with me. Having a new puppy recently, we were told by the vet that until his vaccinations were complete we were not to walk him or take him to the beach etc. We really go to a lot of trouble to make sure our pets are safe, and yet we take newborns into shopping centres and kinders etc. This is just a thought I had lately with all the discussion about kids not being vaccinated. I thought it interesting and probably would be more careful where I took my babies now than I actually was when I had them.


  • I think i would of worded it differently if i were them, but in effect i would of said thanks for the invite but we will not be able to attend as we are worried about bubs picking up a bug or catching a cold, a lot of first time mums can be over protective and thats ok. Life changes dramatically for some people when they have kids, It would of been hard for the mum to relax especially if bubs is the unsettled kind or very young she would of not enjoyed herself with everyone wanting a hold etc. Invite her over for a coffee to catch up instead. She is still your friend and at least she was honest.


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