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Hubby and I always thought we would have 3 children, we just had our first child 4 months ago and my pregnancy was tough and complicated so I swore no more children. Since having her though I’m starting to think about having just one more so she will have a sibling. But then I think she will be fine as an only child. I would love your opinions, and or experiences. Thanks :)

Posted by Mum2Belle, 30th July 2014

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  • My husband and I said we wanted two but stopped at one and have never regretted our decision. Our child is happy. There are pros and cons to having siblings.

  • She would be fine as an only child. There are pros and cons for either. You just need to work out which pros and cons suit or don’t suit you

  • I like big families as I was only child until age 7 then mum and dad decided to have another 2. I have 4 kids myself and love watching them all play together and grow up together. I think it’s a personal decision but that’s my experience. Good luck and all the best!

  • I have always wanted 2 kids but seeing my friends, that were only children, has just cemented having 2 for me. I know some kids don’t mind being an only child but the ones I had experiences with didn’t like it at all.
    I guess its up to you and your husband but I say the more the merrier :) life will never be dull, that’s for sure hehe

  • Weigh up all the pros and cons; I understand only too well! tough and complicated pregnancies and difficult births! Knowing there is a baby at the end of it helps! It is a tough decision; take the time to reflect on it and you will make the decision that best suits you and your family. Good luck. :)

  • It’s up to you of course, however being an only child has many advantages ;-)

  • There is no answer, just go with it and it will work out!!

  • Every pregnancy is different so may not be anything like your first. We have two and I wouldn’t have it any other way. They are best mates. It is a personal choice though with no right or wrong answers.

  • I always wanted two children now i have a 19 month old boy and im not sure i can have another, my pregnancy was awful i had horrible morning sickness that lasted all hours i spent awake, almost everything i ate i vomited within minutes, sometimes i couldnt even keep down water, i lost weight instead of gaining my pre pregnancy weight was 120 i weighed 105 in my last month of pregnancy, he was born 3 weeks early. Labor was obviously no doubt painful (i had a normal delivery) it went by pretty quick and there were no major complications, i just cant forget how miserable i felt while pregnant. Im not so confident i can do it again. :(

  • I think it’s something that you and your husband have to agree on.
    I never wanted any children and I’ve got 4 who I love dearly and wouldn’t change for the world.
    I don’t think you should have a second children just because you don’t want your daughter to be a only child I’m sure she would be fine but if you both really want another child for you then go for it.
    Sorry if that seems a bit harsh.

  • I think siblings is fantastic my 2 girl love each other to bits but its your body and u do what u feel is needed for you

  • It is your body so your decision and each pregnancy is different so you may not have the same complications and I like that my kids have siblings but a friend of mine stopped at 1 and she has regular play dates and goes to child care so I think it’s ok too.

  • Aww ashblonde that’s such a lovely thing to do for that little neighbour.

  • Having had problems myself with a miscarriage & complications in my pregnancies I felt blessed been able to have 3 healthy boys that grew up with live in playmates! Our neighbour had a only child & I regarded him as my 4th child as he was always at our home because he needed the company!

  • A couple of years ago I thought about a sibling for my little boy who is 8, but I was never 100% committed in my thoughts about it. I guess I could have had I have wanted to but I chose to just be content with my son and his more complicated needs sort of really influenced my decision to have no more children. I had an early birth and pregnancy complications, but I know every birth is different and that isn’t the reason I chose not to have another. I honestly think you know when you’re finished, it’s strange but it really is just a feeling of knowiness that comes over you. Whilst I used to get clucky around little babies, these days I still think they are adorable and want cuddles etc but I don’t get that same clucky feeling I used to. You and your hubby will eventually make the decision that is right for you. I involve my son in as many activities that involve being around other children as our schedule possibly allows for.

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