I have a 7 year old boy and 4 year old girl and I really get along with another mom that has 3 boys, ages 6, 4, & 2. We like to get the kids together for play dates but I have noticed that her oldest son is really rough when playing with my 7 year old son. This boy is constantly trying to wrestle my son, pull his arms behind his back, yank him down to the ground, it’s endless. When the kids are nearby I tell the other boy to lighten up a bit because I can totally tell that my son is not loving it. The boy smiles and then carries on like I said nothing. The mom says her son is a “mauler” with the little brothers and she likes that now he has a friend to play with. I like getting together with the mom and the having the younger kids get together but I can tell my son gets stressed about being pushed around by a younger kid that is just so relentless and physical. My son is just not like that even at home with his sister. I don’t want to be mean but I want him to lig hten up when I ask him to! Is there any good way to deal with this without sounding like a total jerk or loose the friendship with the mom and other kids?
Posted anonymously, 10th October 2019