At what age should pocket money cease? And what should older kids do to earn the pocket money? My partner and I’s issue is that we have 2 adult kids living at home. A 20 year old daughter, doing 2 degrees and working part-time and an 18 year old son who has just finished year 12 with no plans for future study and no job. I feel that as neither pays board they should do some basic chores like feeding the pets, doing the dishes and a load of laundry every so often with no payment. We pay health insurance, all medical bills, sports fees and help out with uni books and some clothing. I cook 90% of the meals. Hubby still pays them pocket money!! What do other parents think?

Posted anonymously, 6th December 2013

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  • I think they are beyond the age of getting pocket money, esoecially for doing nothing. I totally agree with you, if they’re not paying board, they should be contributing to household chores. Now is a good time for them to be cooking meals, learning while still at home, it’s a skill they will need when they move out. You seem to have made home super comfortable, they probably don’t want to move out

  • Pocket money is a way to teach kids to be responsible and be rewarded.Primary school kids get less then high school kids.Keep your room clean to get your pocket money,simple,messy room come pay day no cash.

  • well it’s really something to discuss with him

  • Personally I think when earning money Kids should put in it chores in payment for you supporting them .It’s good manners & we all pay to have roof over our heads etc

  • I think once a child is old enough to get a job parents shouldn’t need to pay pocket money. If they are living at home at no cost the least they could do is help around at home with housework, cooking etc.

  • They shouldn’t get money as they’re are already getting free rent. Your helping them heaps already

  • We paid pocket money when my kids were studying and out of work but only enough to cover petrol to and from uni. Once they had work that ceased. And if they were not trying for work or studying than there was no need for them to have money.

  • your kids will never learn to be independent if they don’t start to learn how life really is

  • if they are adult kids then I wouldn’t be giving them any pocket money, even if they are studying they can still get a casual job and work around their schooling like other kids do. and yes I would make them do some housework in lieu of board

  • First reaction – cut off the pocket money! Easier said than done when they aren’t my children and I’m not in that situation, so I really have no right to judge. I would, however, set ground rules on what they need to do around the house regardless of whether you cut the money supply. For free board, I would be getting them to do the majority of the housework and cooking.

  • at that age they should not be getting pocket money and they should be doing chores to teach them you don’t get to live in the real world for nothing. i would be telly Hubby to stop with the pocket money as life is not a hand out and he is prepared to still be doing it when they are 40. They are adults and need to be treated as such and Hubby has to close his wallet on them both.

  • Definitely shouldn’t be giving them money while they are living under your roof and being fed and clothed by you! Sometimes it’s hard to ask your kids for money but it is totally up to you if you want to start charging them board.

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  • The 18 yr old should do outside chores as part of his contribution to the household. Encourage him to apply for part time work. Once he has an income, ask him to contribute towards the family kitty by paying some board taking into account he may not be earning much. This can be reviewed as he becomes more established in work. He should be responsible for his own personal expenses out of his income. Your daughter should contribute to household chores by doing dishes etc taking into account study and work loads. During Uni holidays she should pull her weight with chores. She should pay some board or pay for her textbooks etc depending on what income she gets. A hard one to get right.

  • Neither of them should be getting pocket money at that age. Good on your daughter for studying and working. It sounds like the 18 year old needs to be given a long list of jobs to do at home to motivate him to get a job ;)

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