Hey MoM, Im in desperate need to help a darling friend of mine who is pregnant. She already has a 19 month old son and is 12 weeks along with this pregnancy. She started showing odd signs roughly 4 weeks ago and seemed very down and depressed. It is clear to me now that she is experiencing pre-natal depression. It has …gotten extremely bad in the past 2 weeks to the point where she has stated “i cant be a mother anymore”, “take my son i dont deserve him” and “i just want to escape it all”. Before she got pregnant she was such a happy, bubbly mum. She adores her son and always puts him first but lately she wont do anything for him but the everyday things he needs (baths,nappy changes, feeding etc). She cries all the time, neglects herself, sleeps all the time, barely eats which is not good for the baby. She is aware of how shes feeling and talks to me about it which is great, shes stated being a mum is suddenly overwhelming, nothing she does seems to make her son happy, she feels like a failure, she cries for no reason and cant control it. She has also spoke to drs and refused medication as she doesnt want it to interfere with the baby. Im struggling to work out what I can do to help her and was hoping you could point me in the right direction.
Posted by anon 19.1.2013

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  • I truly hope your friend got the help and advice she needed. She is lucky to have a dear caring friend like you.



  • I hope you managed to get the information you needed for your friend.



  • I hope she got the help she needed



  • I think you should encourage her to seek professional help.



  • I feel for your friend. I hope she gets the help she needs.



  • i hope it all goes well



  • This is a lot for just you to take on as well, do get advice from your own Doctor as well to see what things you can do to help.



  • Just keep being there for when she need you



  • I hope everything went well and she has improved by now . I am glad you are there to help her Everyone needs a good friend



  • It’s never easy to watch a friend go through depression. The best thing you can do is encourage her to talk to her doctor, or a different doctor to her usual one, and be there for her as much as possible. Also make other friends and members of her family aware of what shes going through so they can do what they can to help too. She needs a strong support system. She needs to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I really hope things have improved



  • I hope everything worked out well for your friend. Shes very lucky to have your support.



  • Get professional help. Sounds like she needs it among the friends too. Or even jus a good night sleep



  • Sounds like she needs a good friend



  • As this question was some time ago, I was just wondering how your friend got on. Hopefully she did get treatment of some kind. You really sound like a great friend and it’s so good she could talk to you at the time….



  • Good luck and I hope your friend feels better


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