Hey MoM, Im in desperate need to help a darling friend of mine who is pregnant. She already has a 19 month old son and is 12 weeks along with this pregnancy. She started showing odd signs roughly 4 weeks ago and seemed very down and depressed. It is clear to me now that she is experiencing pre-natal depression. It has …gotten extremely bad in the past 2 weeks to the point where she has stated “i cant be a mother anymore”, “take my son i dont deserve him” and “i just want to escape it all”. Before she got pregnant she was such a happy, bubbly mum. She adores her son and always puts him first but lately she wont do anything for him but the everyday things he needs (baths,nappy changes, feeding etc). She cries all the time, neglects herself, sleeps all the time, barely eats which is not good for the baby. She is aware of how shes feeling and talks to me about it which is great, shes stated being a mum is suddenly overwhelming, nothing she does seems to make her son happy, she feels like a failure, she cries for no reason and cant control it. She has also spoke to drs and refused medication as she doesnt want it to interfere with the baby. Im struggling to work out what I can do to help her and was hoping you could point me in the right direction.
Posted by anon 19.1.2013

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  • She needs help immediately – she has to take the medication to get through this as it will only get worse after the baby. I highly recommend fish oil for depression – not tablets but pure oil – Melrose Fish Oil is the brand we use. 20 mls a day and she should see a difference in a few weeks. I’m unsure of its safety with pregnancy but given it is just pure fish oil i cant imagine there is anything wrong with it. Might be worth googling or asking the doctor. I can’t stress enough how much she needs medication. She has to understand that there is a bigger impact on both her children if she isnt medicated and able to live life fully.



  • Hi this site has help me though my PND https://www.facebook.com/MumsHelpingMumsPND?fref=ts ask for Christna add you to the private page lots mummies with PND & loads support there from normal mummies :)



  • Ask her ‘What was her first birth like?’



  • I had pre natal depression I also refused to take meds while pregnant my doctor referred me to the mental health dept of our hospital and I had weekly visits with someone to talk I found that helped a lot.


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