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After having a miscarriage for an unplanned pregnancy, my husband and I have decided we want one more baby. Thing is I go from yes to no back to yes! So I would love to hear all the good things about a 3rd child please.

Posted anonymously, 20th May 2020

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  • I have three children and I can’t imagine what it would be like with only two. Major bonus is that if one went on camp or to a friends house the other two still had each other and if there was an argument there was usually a neutral sibling that could help defuse the situation or give them someone to talk to. I’ve never had the middle child issues because my middle child is the only boy so it was easy to make him feel special. On the down side most holiday parks, venues, etc identify a family as two adults & two children :P

  • it shouldn’t be about numbers but what you feel. I have 3 children and love it, they play well and I wouldn’t have it another way, Make a list over the next few months so dont rush in and talk openly to your partner how they also feel. Good luck

  • If there was serious medical problems that caused the miscarriage I would consider discussing with a Medical Professional. I know of a couple of Mums who when they consulted one were advised not to have another baby. Why they weren’t told that after the miscarriage I don’t know. In one instance there was a genetic issue that had skipped a generation. If you aren’t sure maybe think and discuss it with the Dad before considering another pregnancy………….As another Mum commented you will very likely need to get a larger car. Unlike the really old standard size sedans you cannot fit a total of 3 babyseats – neither convertible or ordinary – or booster seat. I know families that have been forced to purchase cars with wider bodies. Some buy people movers so you have some boot space as well. Some of them have larger boot space too. I wish you every success for the decision you make.

  • It’s such a big decision and ultimately you have to make the decision on what’s best for you and your other 2 kids

  • It’s much easier to go from two to three than it was to go from one to two. And it expands the love in your family. It adds another playmate, so if any two kids are annoyed at each other, they have another option.

  • Interesting reading the answers as Part if me wants a 3rd and at the moment hubby doesn’t :)

  • This is really only something that you and your husband can answer. To me, the more children, the more to love. If you were happy to find out you were pregnant in the first place then you know you really want another one. All the best no matter what you decide

  • My opinion it was not hard to manage as you already got experience.

  • It’s interesting to read the different stories and opinions.

  • We went for our third child because I felt incomplete. Our older two at the time were 12 and 9, which made it so much easier as there were old enough to look after themselves and were also a really big help around the house.
    Once I had my third, we felt satisfied and a complete family

  • They would have more love to share when they’re older! You won’t regret it

  • Having children is a blessing so if you try for that third child good luck! I have 2 and have had a miscarriage but don’t think I could put myself through it again. Knowing already that you have the feeling of wanting another child, even if you did change your mind, makes me think you aren’t finished. All the best!

  • my 3rd child was a whoops baby but I wouldn’t be without him and right from the time I found out I was ecstatic,now the father that’s a different story but I loved the child and got rid of the father when I was 4 months pregnant best decisions ever ????????

  • You will never regret the children you have, only the ones you don’t.

  • I just have 1 at this stage and not where you are at at the moment.

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