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We have a 25 month old daughter who is waking up & we are having difficulty resettling my daughter at night. She’s in her own bed & just keeps getting up. We are up for 3-4 hours most nights & this has been going on for weeks. As far as we can tell – there’s nothing wrong: she’s not sick or hungry or wet. We have tried everything suggested in the books: most often it’s “time for sleep” & put her back to bed. But she’s usually up again 15 mins later. We have also tried patting her back to sleep/ sitting in her room while she falls asleep but she doesn’t fall asleep! My partner & I are losing a lot of sleep (we both work & have two other kids). It’s exhausting! How can we resettle my daughter at night?

Posted by Kate, 28/08/13

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  • Maybe you giving her this attention in the night is actually very reinforcing. I would try minimizing the attention in the night, when coaching her back to bed keep it short and neutral. She may first increase her behaviour, but stay consequent

  • I realise my answer is 2 years late but in case any other mums are having this it could be a few things:
    1. Day nap? Maybe obsolete now.
    2. Co sleeping?
    My 2 year old does that. Since we just had a baby i’m co sleeping for a few nights then putting her back in her bed. Just so she doesn’t feel displaced.
    Hope you found a solution

  • Keep distractions to a minimum. This first 2 times she gets up, explain (quickly) that it’s bedtime and take her straight back to bed. Tuck her in and leave, avoid turning on the light. After that, just pick her up and take her straight back to bed, no conversation at all. Tuck her in and leave the room. It may take a few nights, but she’ll eventually learn where she should be. This is a Supernanny tip, she’s good at what she does

  • there are some good comments here

  • Hmm.. worst comes to worst let her settle herself? cry out?

  • What did you end up doing?

  • How is she going now?

  • How did it go in the end?

  • I would try wearing her our during the day so that she is too tired to stay up! Worth a go.

  • i hope it turned out!

  • Hope some of the advice below has helped.

  • Hope you managed to find some ideas that have helped.

  • Maybe sleep with your daughter, she may go to sleep knowing mummy or daddy is near her?

  • I hope that you found something to resettle your daughter

  • I also think it may have become a habit.

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