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This is my 3rd baby. With the other 2 I never had an issue but I can’t go anywhere without her screaming or wanting to be picked up. She also get very jealous if I cuddle her dad or older siblings- she tries to push them away and gets very upset. I am a sahm and she doesn’t attend daycare but goes to playgroup once a week which I coordinate. Is this normal behaviour? Any ideas how to settle her anxiety?

Posted by mom59057, 27th May 2014

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  • Hi there has she changed her way she acts at all, just want to know as my daughter acts this way?

  • Of course it’s normal behaviour she wants her mumma. X

  • I have the same problem with master 2 . how are things going now?

  • its totally normal clingy stage. try distracting her with other things before picking her up every time she starts.

  • It sounds like a faze that she is going through

  • its all normal, just speak to her and leaving her alone with them for some time together, and in no time she will get use to it

  • unfortunately i can’t leave her with anyone as we have no family where we live so its just her and i. I honestly have tried everrything in the book to be firm with her about being picked up all the time but honestly she will not stop screaming until i pick her up doesn’t matter if its 5mins or 2hrs she will not stop until she has been picked up and cuddled

  • she will outgrow it, try leaving her for a few hours a day or aa couple of times a week

  • I had similar issues with my younger daughter (I only have the two, and they’re 9 and 6). She was always more clingy, more introverted, and less happy with any sort of change, than her sister.

    I think it’s normal. I think some kids just have different needs to others. The way I dealt with it was to just put up with staying at parties with her, rather than dropping her off like I did for her older sister. And also to be firm on the occassions that warranted it.

    If I needed to leave her, and I knew she wouldn’t be happy, I’d tell her about it in advance (even though the discussion often upset her), and said “I know you don’t want to, but that’s what’s happening”. This way she was well aware of what was happening. Then, when it came to leaving, I said goodbye, gave her a kiss, and left quickly. If I stayed and tried to console or comfort her, it made it much more traumatic.

    I did constantly tell her that I loved her, and I would be back. I’d give her regular cuddles, but if I was cooking dinner (for example) and couldn’t cuddle her, I was calm but firm when I told her I could not cuddle her right now.

    I hope that helps.

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